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i feel like if someone said “i’m only attracted to men and trans women” there would be way more backlash than i’ve seen for people saying “yeah i’m only attracted to women and trans men”. maybe i’m wrong.
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Trans Talk 2w
y’all i’m so tired of seeing people talk about being attracted to trans men but not cis men… it’s literally so invalidating and it’s crazy how many people try and justify it.
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Anonymous 2w

No ur absolutely correct they dunk on grindr men who say this all the fucking time the double standard is crazy. Neither one is okay in my book

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Anonymous 2w

that’s valid. obviously any kind of person can be shitty, it’s just much higher with cis men in my own experience - and the few that i have been interested in were not willing to give me the time i needed to get to know/trust them, so my inclination is to say they’re not particularly interested in me either. i don’t date cishet women, and im a lot more cautious in dating white people. it’s mostly about shared experience for me, and while i’m masc/male aligned i don’t really feel the kind of-

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Anonymous 2w

i always assumed it was a t4t thing but maybe that was optimistic

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

sometimes it is, but i have seen it from both trans and cis people recently. not a fan tbh.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

yeah that def reads weird from cis people…i’m a bi trans guy who’s mostly t4t but would prob date a cis woman, if she’s queer? but i also do have a hard boundary against dating cis men, im just not interested and i’ve been made unsafe too many times

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

also i think there’s a difference between t4t as a preference but being interested in trans men + nonbinary people and women (trans and cis) and being exclusively t4t (not being interested in dating anyone cis). i’ve seen people express both sentiments. but maybe i’m off base.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

i understand that theoretically and i want to be clear i’m not judging you, but as someone who’s been made unsafe by both cis men and cis women, i’m always skeptical of people who think that cis men pose a unique threat such that they should *all* be excluded but that cis women get a pass. again, not judging, just saying where i’m coming from.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

-kinship in male spaces the way that i do in queer/trans, or even femme spaces

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