c3brus on Sidechat | Correct. Building on this. When you see hesitation/maybe/silence: *communicate* Ask: “do you feel comfortable with this?” “What do you want right now?” “A different time?” Hesitation isn’t an E-stop, it’s a sign that more communication is necessary.

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General 1d

c3brus

Correct. Building on this. When you see hesitation/maybe/silence: *communicate* Ask: “do you feel comfortable with this?” “What do you want right now?” “A different time?” Hesitation isn’t an E-stop, it’s a sign that more communication is necessary.

General 1d

Because some people don’t know about consent: No = NO Maybe = NO Silence = NO Hesitation = NO Unconscious or Drunk = NO Changing the subject = NO

Anonymous 1d

I’m OP and yes I agree. Communication is always key

Anonymous 11h

Yk we all have to complete a training like this to register for classes next semester right?

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Anonymous

#1 1d

I just wanted to clarify. I have a lot of experience with this as someone in the *ACTUAL* kink community. So much of healthy Kink is learning how to do things that are new, intense, or vulnerable often with power imbalance, while respecting someone’s boundaries and consent. We juggle the question of “yeah, but what does “No” reeeeeeallly mean? [Vsauce music]” in ways that seem wild to those outside of our culture.

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c3brus 1d

The best advice I can give is communicate: Honestly, truthfully, frequently, loudly communicate. “No” is a stop, everything else up to a “yes” is sign that you need to talk more to figure out if it’s a yes or a no. And if it’s not a “yes” be gentle, be slow, and COMMUNICATE!!!! Healthy boundaries make healthy relationships!

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Anonymous

#2 10h

Some people, yes. Some no. And either way. 1/4 women will be sexually assaulted or raped in undergrad. One in FOUR. As long as that number is so high, I will continue to remind and educate on how to be better.