Yeah no, legally you’re wrong. Look up SA laws. Anything other than a yes is a no, period. Silence and hesitation are NO, hesitation means you’re unsure and you shouldn’t have sex because they’re unsure. Why would you want to sleep with someone who’s unsure if they want to have sex with you? That’s just weird and predatory behavior bc obviously you don’t care if they actually want to or not. Do better, take a course on consent and please never reproduce

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You don’t think silence could indicate that they’re scared to say no? Weird behavior

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The problem is men like you who justify SA. Implied consent is when body language tells you they’re consenting. If someone is being silent and avoiding eye contact they don’t want to have sex. If someone says maybe, it means they might want to later but not right now

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You’re just wrong lmao

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in what world would you want to have sex with someone who is unsure if they want to have sex with you?

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You just said hesitation isn’t a no. Regret isn’t the same as SA but having sex with someone who didn’t explicitly consent is a crime

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Your psychoanalysis tells me you think you’re better than the average person and that you’re very narcissistic. I never said it wa sa blanket statement or that anything but an enthusiastic yes is a felony, you made that up. This is the type of shit my friend who was on fentanyl was saying to make himself feel morally superior. Whatever your insecurity is, I hope you find healing soon and try to be more humble in the future instead of doubling down when you’re wrong. Wish you the best.

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Good boy

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Hope it was worth it babe

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Anonymous #3 19h

This post was directed toward people who aren’t dating but they do apply to dating. You know your partner better than i do 🫶

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Anonymous #4 19h

I had a girl literally ask me after I left her house why didn’t u push the issue and said I ain’t want it bad enough since I went with the first no. Said that to say dealing with people can get really confusing and is why you should know the person well enough b4 crossing those line. For the niggas always go with the no or hesitation, better safe than sorry. U can find another that’s going, sex is not that serious.

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Anonymous #4 19h

The post was mostly about people who aren’t in a relationship. People know their partners better than anyone else, and unfortunately people SA their partners too

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If someone is UNCERTAIN THEN ITS NOT A YES ARE U SLOW

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Anonymous #7 17h

This!!!

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Anonymous #6 17h

Yeah, they actually blocked me bc they couldn’t argue anymore lol

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It’s people like you - you’re the problem

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what a pathetic chud

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Mind you all the OP did was say "only have sex with someone if they show clear consent" (just paraphrasing here) and this is your response... yuck

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Seek therapy, mwah!

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Sounds like you do considering you just replied to OPs comment again LMAO

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Wait wdym push boundaries im not arguing im just confused what that means

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You really must love SA lol

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Anonymous #19 11h

The fact he would knowingly have sex with me that intoxicated is disgusting, I was in no state to consent to anything. This has ruined casual sex for me and permanently altered my view of sex. Sex itself means nothing to me but the way I’ve realized men will just use you for sex is disheartening. I used to have sex after a date or two just because why now but now I just feel completely used for sex by these men.

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Bro is the Saul Goodman of rape

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Anonymous #19 11h

I haven’t reported it even though I have texts that pretty much confirm it, because he knows where I live, that I live alone and I’m concerned for my safety. I also think he realizes it was wrong he seemed pretty freaked out once he stopped. But that doesn’t erase the impact it’s had on me. Don’t trust people you don’t really know.

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Anonymous #17 11h

i think the safest thing is to continuously check in to make sure it’s a constant yes

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Anonymous #3 11h

It can as long as it is either previously agreed upon, or a typical part of their behavior. If they say maybe as a yes FREQUENTLY then I’d argue it is okay to proceed with caution. Look out for your partner, and stop if need be

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Anonymous #18 11h

Preach

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Anonymous #21 10h

Sure, but that’s true no matter how quickly they answer

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Anonymous #26 10h

Uhhh nah… rapists are rapists. Kill them all

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Anonymous #26 9h

Yesss your so right

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Anonymous #24 9h

Nobody said it was…

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Anonymous #24 9h

They aren’t right tho…

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Anonymous #5 9h

I pray you mature and are no longer brainwashed

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Anonymous #26 9h

It’s a crime when it happens to a man or a woman, it’s a crime when committed by a man or a woman. Stop creating a divide that shouldn’t be there

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Anonymous #24 9h

I pray you go outside and get away from whatever cesspool you’re getting your information from

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Anonymous #27 9h

You can’t consent while high either

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Anonymous #24 9h

You’re making shit up my guy

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Anonymous #19 9h

It’s completely up to you. I reported my assault but dropped the charges when I realized it would be a years long legal battle and it was 100% my word against his. Unfortunately, most people don’t side with the victim and this was terrifying. Im so so sorry this happened to you, you didnt deserve it. You deserve peace

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Anonymous #18 9h

The problem is that a lot of men don’t take no as an answer… a lot of men harm women, whether it’s by forcing them, beating them or k1lling them. I’m so glad you’ve never had to fear for your life before but that’s just not the reality for everyone. Empathy is free and it’s a learned skill

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Anonymous #17 9h

Hesitation means they’re unsure, why would you sleep with someone who’s unsure if they want to? Thats just weird.

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Anonymous #16 9h

Because many men don’t take no for an answer and harm women bc they don’t get their way

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Anonymous #14 9h

Unfortunately yes

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Anonymous #13 9h

Touching someone who’s explicitly said they didn’t want you to then asking after you’ve already started it. Seeing how far you can go before the person gets upset

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Anonymous #25 9h

You’d think it’s common sense

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Anonymous OP 9h

Taking a second to think doesn’t mean you’re unsure, it just means you haven’t already thought about it and decided.

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Anonymous #17 9h

If you have to think about it, is it really a yes then? You can’t seriously be that desperate to sleep with someone who has to think about it before saying yes

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Anonymous OP 9h

Yes, you can think about it and say yes. Not having an answer right away isn’t the same thing as saying no. It can take time to figure out if you’re ready for that. If you think about it and the answer is yes, there’s no reason for your partner to interpret that as a no.

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Anonymous #17 8h

I feel this might be a communication issue. Are you talking about someone saying maybe then in the future saying yes or saying ok after thinking about it for a few seconds?

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Anonymous #29 8h

We’re talking about people who can’t consent to sex because they’re drunk

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Anonymous OP 8h

Either one, it’s the same thing over different time scales

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Anonymous #29 8h

You legally cannot consent if you’re drunk

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Anonymous OP 8h

I’m gay, and I have been SA’d before. I am not claiming this is a perfect way to avoid negative actions, but saying “no” 99% of the time won’t result in harm. The vast majority of people are normal and will not assault you.

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Anonymous OP 7h

wrong?? look it up?

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Anonymous OP 7h

Oh someone hooked up with me when I was rlly high

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Anonymous #17 7h

If both people are drunk, who SA’d who? It’s literally just using common sense

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Anonymous #30 7h

why are people so vague when giving information about consent laws? you can consent until a point of severe impairment or incapacitation

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Anonymous #17 7h

again, why are people so vague when giving information about consent laws? you can consent until a point of severe impairment or incapacitation

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Anonymous #30 7h

Just use your basic God-given judgement. It’s really not that hard.

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Anonymous #18 7h

what😭😭 wtf are u talking about did u mean to reply to me i didnt need help understanding the law i was just correcting someone lmao

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Anonymous #30 7h

I’m agreeing with you. The law isn’t really relevant, though. It’s more to do with common sense. Sex is not textbook

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Anonymous #30 7h

like #19s story THAT was rape in that state they 100% could not consent, but like u can legally consent if u take a lil yart hit, stop potentially spreading misinformation by being vague

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Anonymous #30 7h

The legality has nothing to do with morality. Make a moral case.

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Anonymous #18 7h

oh ur all talking morality? myb

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Anonymous #18 7h

i mean i still disagree with the idea that any amount of substance use is a no go. I think it depends on the person and u gotta know your limits when it comes to measured decision making. if you arent slurring or stumbling, or youre not passed out high, like youre visibly functioning fine and you assure your partner you can consent, if you regret it after i think u should js deal w it icl,dont see why i cant enjoy drunk sex just cuz summa yall act a lil dumb when youre drunk i suppose? datcrazy?

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Anonymous #30 7h

how far would you take it? like straight up anything means no? like one shot and youre not doing it w someone?

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Anonymous #19 7h

Why did you take those edibles. Like cmon man have some common sense.

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Anonymous #18 7h

Exactlyyyy

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Anonymous #18 7h

W victim blaming 👏👏 stfu retar d what if they trusted this guy and he exploited that, u dk what happened, even if they were just naive and dumb theyre still NOT at fault, why criticize the victim before criticizing the literal rapist like genuinely whats going through ur head

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Anonymous #5 6h

That’s a crazy statement 🫥💀 guys 5 say regret is SA!

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Anonymous blue_green_moneymouth_ 54m

I fw you

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Anonymous #24 53m

Quote where I said that 🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous #24 51m

Guys #24 thinks SA doesn’t exist and non consent is just regret!

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