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Mental Health 6d
your friends actually do not owe it to you to be your therapist and you should never treat them like one, especially if they’ve got their own stuff going on!!! venting to them occasionally is one thing, using them for therapy is another
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Mental Health 6d
i need to be blunt: some of you guys have got to start scheduling therapy appointments instead of meeting new people and immediately dumping every single part of your very real and very impactful trauma on them as soon as you form a Single bond
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Anonymous 6d

I was used as the therapy friend for years until one day I had like 3 different people coming at me with different problems while I was in the middle of a meltdown at work, and I finally put my foot down and (calmly) told them all I needed to focus on myself. I was happily surprised to find out they were all understanding and now we have a rule of asking if the other person is in the headspace for that kind of convo

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Anonymous 6d

I want my friends to use me for therapy bc then at least I’ll be useful

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Anonymous 5d

It’s also on you to let them know that!

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Anonymous 5d

If I’m used as a vent friend, at least I’m useful enough to be acknowledged. That’s better than being entirely isolated like I am now.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

see like i can be there for a friend but i’m talking about people who think it’s owed to them and they’re entitled to it bc they’re friends, i think it’s a great thing to be there for someone don’t get me wrong!! i love being there for friends but if they’re an ass when i can’t carry the weight of their problems on top of mine…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

or if they keep coming to me for advice then completely ignoring it. i wanna be there for ppl but not someone who thinks i owe it to them whenever they want it. like no, i want you to be okay and happy, but sometimes i gotta make sure IM okay first

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6d

i’m glad you guys were able to work something out, that’s awesome!! that’s how it should go, communicating needs and having them respected. mature af i’m wishing you guys all the best with your struggles 🩵🩵

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

Thank you!! It’s worked out really well so far :) and everyone respects when the other says they can’t handle it, or that they need some time to deal with their own thing before responding

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

You’re right, I’m sorry

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

no need to apologize i totally get you! sorry if it came across any type of way but no need to apologize

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

You worded your response perfectly and are really sweet, I just realized I was being close minded

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

noo you’re so sweet absolutely no worries!! i got what you meant 🩷

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