Anonymous dark_blue_waningcrescent1 4w

there’s a disconnect here between what you’re saying vs what demonstrably happened. the note on the receipt is quite literally the written equivalent of saying “I’m a guy” in response to being misgendered, nothing about it indicates that the couple in question were demanding that the server has to automatically guess other people’s genders correctly

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Anonymous dark_blue_waningcrescent1 4w

a written note is nonconfrontational and achieves everything that was needed in this situation. the only reason it would “change nothing” would be if the server chose to react in a needlessly defensive fashion (like you’re doing rn) rather than taking it at face value and moving on with their life

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Anonymous #2 4w

I think they meant that saying something in the moment would change the rest of the interaction, where a note doesn’t influence anything in the future because they’re not likely to interact again. It’s good to stick up for yourself and/or your partner, but if you don’t do it immediately to make the interaction itself better, why do it later?

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Anonymous #4 4w

Good critical thinking skills. This was the point I was trying to make exactly. If someone wrongs you have an adult conversation.

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Anonymous #2 4w

The couple does not demand that assumption. The job and society does. Not the couple/working-pair I think. Many people are not as “woke” as we like them to be. Assumptions are trained into us based on appearance when it comes to gender, especially in high-stress and busy jobs do happen even when they are not intended. But again, if you say “Yo, that’s not me.” Most people will apologize and correct themselves.

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