LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | I hate when I see people put this as their most controversial hot take on dating apps, bc to me as a lesbian it shows that you will not respect my sexuality and that you have same idea that my homophobic mother does (that I could rly end up with a man)

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LGBTQIA+ 1w

I hate when I see people put this as their most controversial hot take on dating apps, bc to me as a lesbian it shows that you will not respect my sexuality and that you have same idea that my homophobic mother does (that I could rly end up with a man)

LGBTQIA+ 1w

Fuck off with this shit. This is harmful asf and is 🍇 CULTURE. I AM A LESBIAN AND ALWAYS WILL BE.

375 upvotes, 83 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "Fuck off with this shit. This is harmful asf and is 🍇 CULTURE. I AM A LESBIAN AND ALWAYS WILL BE."

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Anonymous 1w

As a gay man there have been plenty of women who think they can “convert me to be straight or bi” and my lesbian friends have experienced the same thing from men. I can’t understand what people don’t get from it like it’s such a simple concept but these braindead narcissists just think it’s okay anyway

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Anonymous 1w

There is a big difference between ‘i think most people are likely bi, but societal pressures ends up preventing too many from realizing it” and whatever OOOP is saying :/ Straight people and gay people obviously exist. We don’t need to deny each other’s existence to be progressive or whatever

Anonymous 1w

It’s like yeah I believe that sexuality is a spectrum and for most people societal pressure pushes them into more black and white thinking that doesn’t allow them to fully embrace the complexities of sexuality but also because it’s a damn spectrum that does mean there are people on that extreme ends where the sexuality is just straight or just gay or just lesbian and let’s not act like they are just wrong and not real

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Anonymous 1w

at the very least i like when they do it because when they advertise it i know who to be avoiding. everyone who is bi is bi. every one who is lesbian is lesbian. so on and so forth. let’s just be loving and respectful of all identities and stop the inner circle wars its genuinely such a big waste when there’s many bigger fish to fry.

Anonymous 1w

If that if that individual would’ve said queer then that statement would’ve come across so much better and wouldn’t have invalidated so many queer communities.

Anonymous 1w

My guess is that people who say this are usually bisexuals who aren’t fully comfortable with being bi due to social norms and stuff. So they try to convince themselves everyone is bi.

Anonymous 1w

As a bisexual man, God I wish this were true. We can’t all be bicons.

Anonymous 1w

[tw] The most insidious part to me is how this narrative plays into men “converting” lesbians into liking men rape fantasies

Anonymous

dark_blue_waningcrescent1 1w

I agree with that, it does help to avoid them. I just find the fact that people have this take to be annoying, bc it is like not the progressive take they make it out to be. And like it sucks to have your sexuality invalidate especially by someone who is also queer

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Anonymous

OP 1w

agreed

Anonymous

#8 1w

Oh it 100% does, and anyone who says otherwise is apart of the problem

Anonymous

#6 1w

This is kinda a gross way to respond to this post. Saying, “god I wish this were true” is disrespectful

Anonymous

OP 1w

How is it disrespectful to wish more people were bisexual? I’m not denying anyone’s reality here

Anonymous

#6 1w

This post is about saying that everyone is bi and you said god I wish that was true

Anonymous

#6 1w

It’s disrespectful to wish that we lived in a world where EVERYONE is bisexual

Anonymous

OP 1w

You’re still not explaining what’s wrong with that? I do wish everyone was bi. A world where everyone is bisexual sounds amazing. Unfortunately, we don’t live in that world. We live in reality, where sexuality is a spectrum and you can’t change someone’s position on that spectrum.

Anonymous

#6 1w

I don’t wish we lived in a world where everyone was bi bc I’m not bisexual, I’m a lesbian and I’m really proud of my identity and I wouldn’t want to lose that for anything. This post is about respecting lesbians. It is not respectful of lesbians to wish for a world where we don’t exist.

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OP 1w

I’m a transgender man who thinks the world would be better if people didn’t have to be transgender. Is that being disrespectful to trans people, too? I’m not denying the reality that trans people do exist and are proud of their identities, because I exist and I’m proud of who I am. I’m saying the world would be a happier place if people didn’t have to go through that kind of hardship. It’s an entirely unattainable thing that I don’t feel guilty for theoretically wanting.

Anonymous

#6 1w

That’s different than wishing everyone was a certain sexuality. There is a time and place to wish everyone was bisexual and that time and place is not under a post where the person is talking about how harmful and annoying the everyone is bisexual take is. Even if being disrespectful wasn’t your intention it is how it came across to me

Anonymous

#6 1w

Honestly that sounds so much like what my mom said when I came out as bi. Actually, she didn’t care when I said I was bi. But when I told her about my first girlfriend, she asked me why I needed to do that when I could have an easier life presenting as straight. I wish she could just love and accept me for loving women, too, because it’s part of who I am. I think loving both is part of my identity, and loving just women is part of the lesbian identity for many lesbians. It’s fair for us to…

Anonymous

#8 1w

love those parts of ourselves and see those aspects of ourselves as good. I’d be different and shaped by different experiences if I were straight or lesbian, but I’m bi, and I love who I am. I get why lesbians or gay people would feel the same way. I see how you might see the gender binary differently, but ultimately I do think wishing everyone would be bi is a dangerous type of erasure

Anonymous

#8 1w

Thank you! This is what I was trying to say and you put it into words better than I could thank you

Anonymous

OP 1w

Kinda felt nice to put it into words, tbh. I’m dating a girl for the first time in years and I’m nervous about if it gets serious enough to tell my parents about so it’s been on my mind