Anonymous #3 5w

Why do you care? How does the way this person identifies affect you?

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Anonymous #1 5w

I personally don’t care but you can’t be mad at people for not understanding you bc you’re using a widely accepted label in a way that isn’t understood. Labels make communicating easier, so if you’re using a label in a different way (like claiming a sexuality as a gender) you’re not making things easier, yaknow?

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Anonymous #3 5w

Why can’t they be mad that people are calling them nonbinary AFTER being told they are not. Why can’t they be mad that they’re being called transphobic because of how they identify? It’s an unusual identity and obviously people won’t understand. Not understanding something isn’t an excuse to attack it. The problem here is that you and others DO care enough to attack or make snarky comments (“Unironically?”) rather than just accepting that that is how the person identifies.

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Anonymous #3 5w

People need to learn to accept things they don’t understand. OPs identity is their identity, it’s not something they can control.

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Anonymous #1 5w

That is fair to be mad at. I did not call that out. I’m just questioning if they’re genuinely considering lesbian as a gender identity. Bc as a joke it’s funny and we make it in lsa all the time, but rejecting all gendered terms to strictly say lesbian is your gender is objectively incorrect and to get mad people point that out is just weird. Just like they don’t have to deny being nonbinary, but rejecting it as the umbrella term for what you’re experiencing is weird too

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Anonymous #3 5w

Holy shit im not mad for ppl not getting it its ppl who are insisting im actually nonbinary when im not.

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Anonymous OP 5w

That’s fine but your comments in the other post just had me confused is all. I wasn’t judging your identity or invalidating it I was just seeking clarification and someone else went off

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Anonymous #3 5w

See this is my problem youre going out of your way to say how i am is wrong and objectively incorrect. Im not denying being nonbinary i am not nonbinary. I also dont rehect all gendered terms youre just making shit up to be mad at

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Anonymous OP 5w

I didn’t say that you did fam 😭 other comments did and your replies were ambiguous so I was seeking clarification, not saying one way or another

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Anonymous #3 5w

Yes im being unironic. This is widely accepted in my local queer scene i really didnt think that would be the issue

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Anonymous OP 5w

If the people around you understand what you mean that’s all that matters, but rejecting the widely accepted and understood meaning of terms in a wider community is going to lead to friction is all

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Anonymous #3 5w

That’s quite literally the thing OP is mad about

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Anonymous #1 5w

And I’m referring specifically to the comments and how they replied to them, hence why I’m under this post about the comments and not the original

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Anonymous #3 5w

“I wasn’t judging your identity or invalidating it” and then you literally say it’s objectively incorrect

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Anonymous #1 5w

In the global space yeah it is, that doesn’t mean you can’t identify that way, it just means the vast majority of the overall community aren’t going to understand you when you label yourself that way. Identify as a lesbian for your gender all you want, but don’t be upset when people question you bc you’re rejecting definitions

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Anonymous #1 5w

Just because you reject label’s understood meaning doesn’t mean the world is going to reject them with you. Identify as a carrot for all I care and I’ll support your right to do so. Totally valid! Demanding everyone understand it immediately with no questions and no explanation…less valid

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Anonymous #3 5w

Im not rejecting widely accepted terms again im just not nonbinary you are putting your ideas of what queerness means for you and forcing them on me, which is what i take beef with. Like it really is not the deepest butyoure being an ass about it

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Anonymous #3 5w

This post does not exist in a vacuum. It does not just say “comments”.. This post says “Comments proving my point”. As in the comments on that post are proving the POINT OF THAT POST that I mentioned previously. It’s connected and you cannot separate them

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Anonymous OP 5w

I’m not forcing labels on you. You do not have to use them. But falling under them and getting upset people using them for clarification isn’t helping anyone here. Just fighting to fight

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Anonymous #1 5w

…speaking of fighting just to fight I feel like that’s all you’re doing here bud

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Anonymous #3 5w

You are sooo not listening lmao i do not fall under the label and you saying i am is forcing your shit on me and misgendering me. I would not care if you didnt keep telling me im wrong and senseless and doomed to be misunderstood cuz i know that isnt true

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Anonymous OP 5w

If your gender identity exists outside of the gender binary, you DO fall under that umbrella. And you’ve denied clarification beyond that. You don’t have to identify as such and nobody is making you, but refusing to clarify anything and just saying “no” and getting mad at follow up question isn’t helpful conversation at all! Just screaming into the internet void

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Anonymous OP 5w

So unless you inférieur as a transmasc lesbian woman, which saying transmasc lesbian DOES NOT COMMUNICATE, btw, bc non women can be lesbians, you’re just being purposefully ambiguous bc you want to fight

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Anonymous #3 5w

Except they DONT fall under that label. That's the point. AII OP is saying is that they do not want to be called nonbinary when they have already stated that they are not nonbinary. If somebody tells you their identity, you do not say 'actually I think you're this other identity. That is what OP stated that they were upset about in the post, and that's exactly what you have proceeded to do.

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Anonymous #1 5w

I am not saying that. I’m commenting on their lack of actual information regarding it. Which they do not have to give. Nobody has a right to know that. But getting upset people are confused and trying to understand your identity further when you refuse to elaborate is problematic! And that’s all I’m going to say further bc we’re just circling around. Night y’all enjoy the rest of your evenings

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Anonymous #3 5w

Okay thats all i need to know that youre not gonna get what im saying. Yes im a non woman yes im a lesbian this isnt weird to lesbians. My closest tie to gender at all is being a lesbian so thats why i say it. Im sorry u cant figure that out tho but most ither can

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Anonymous OP 5w

And all I’m saying is if you want your gender identity to be a sexuality that’s completely fine. But you cannot be upset that since that doesn’t align with the accepted understanding of those terms so people use them in questions to better understand what you’re communicating to them.

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Anonymous #3 5w

People aren’t trying to understand by insisting they are nonbinary and calling them transphobic. They are not mad that people are trying to understand, they are mad about the thing they literally said they were mad about.

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Anonymous #3 5w

Youre talking right past me i just dont want you to misgender me and then get mad when im upset by that!

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Anonymous #3 5w

It honestly just sounds like your idea of queerness is very narrow and ciscentric, esp for going out of your way soo hard to try to invalidate me without even knowing the deal lol

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