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Update: her and I are no contact now! She cut me off after deadnaming me in an argument she started, and when I told her that was unacceptable, she flipped it on me and said I pushed “the only person who truly loves me” away over “pronouns and a name” 😒
So… my mom just told me she “acknowledges” my queer identity but using my pronouns would be “lying” to me that she believes in gender identity 😭😭😭 what do I do gang
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Anonymous 23h

omg my brother said the exact same thing about “lying”, and i do not talk to him anymore. glad you chose to end it and i hope youll feel a little better

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Anonymous 23h

Well you don’t really love me if you can’t even respect me ✌🏻😂 good riddance honestly

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Anonymous 21h

Because if she truly loved you, she would respect you and what you go by. She’s just being evil & manipulative 😔 I’m so proud of you and I’m sorry dear, I’m ur mom now 🫂

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Anonymous 21h

She loves you but doesn’t respect you, and that’s a valid reason to go no contact, and cutting off her own child just because their child is different than everyone else, says more about her morale than you, I’m truly sorry and hope you heal from this ❤️

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Anonymous 20h

Also she loves the version of you she had in her head, not the true you. ❤️

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Anonymous 20h

Id rather my kid change their pronouns a thousand times than have to write their obituary 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous 20h

Your mom reminds me of mine. She told me nobody would ever love me just bc she drove me late to work one day… I was 15…. Guess she could not handle the guilt of her own actions and then told me nobody will love me??? These kinda moms just wanna feel an all encompassing control over her kids. Leaving, going no contact is the only way to regain your power. I did it too

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Anonymous 20h

I’m sorry you’re going through this❤️ people need their parents but if they hurt you, you’re better off without. Instead, you have a whole community across the world who does accept you for exactly who you are🙏🏼🫶🏼 hang in there❤️🌈

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Anonymous 10h

welcome to the club 🫶 haven’t talked in over a year. it was ugly when i came out as nonbinary in 2021. I brought up to her that that still hurts and it feels like she doesn’t accept me fully. “Well I didn’t KNOW you still identified that way. But that being said, I don’t consider that an actual thing. That has nothing to do with my faith, but science.” mind you i was literally in a genetics class at that time LMAO

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Anonymous 16h

Sending love ❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

Thank you, and also I’m glad I’m not the only person who has experienced that excuse because it genuinely made my head spin. I’m feeling really horrible now but I know it’ll definitely get better 🫶🏻

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Yup! If they don’t respect you, they do not love you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

Aweee thank you 🥺🥺 I agree though. She’s never put in the effort to understand me even when I tried to educate her or explain how I feel/identify to her. A new mom would be lovely lol 🫶🏻

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 18h

Heavy agree, throughout all these years she always says I’ll only/always be the little girl she met and adopted (when I was like 7 bruh) and that I’d never be able to change from that one state of being. Like sorry I’m not 7 anymore and I’ve grown into my own person with beliefs and values that differ from her expectations lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 10h

Omg very similar experience to mine lol, I came out in 2020 and she said it went against nature and her religion and stuff and this year I begged to know if she actually loved those parts of me and she said no 🙃 she also told me it’s just mental illness and she’s very distrustful of science and medicine in general 😒 glad to know im not alone in this exact experience lol

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