LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | So… my mom just told me she “acknowledges” my queer identity but using my pronouns would be “lying” to me that she believes in gender identity 😭😭😭 what do I do gang

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LGBTQIA+ 3w

So… my mom just told me she “acknowledges” my queer identity but using my pronouns would be “lying” to me that she believes in gender identity 😭😭😭 what do I do gang

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Anonymous 2w

With all the love in the world: she can fuck right off. Ok, but for real, you need to establish boundaries, and that’s… a lot. It varies by person (I walked out of visiting dad, I hung up on him, I repeatedly told him “no, do better” when he refused to call me by my name, and changed my contact name on his phone because “it’s too difficult to remember”. But each person is different, and I was in a place where he did not hold any economical power over me.

Anonymous 2w

i would like to give my experience of what happens when you don’t follow kore_09’s advice. my family said that exact thing to me years ago and instead of fighting for respect i said “ok, that’s fine, i understand.” to this day they still don’t use the correct name or pronouns for me. i am too scared to correct them and i feel like i’m in too deep at this point. it has made my familial relationships very bitter on my end. i hold a lot of resentment. it builds up slowly but surely. i have to out

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kore_09 2w

So first make sure you are safe even if she cuts you off. Then slowly work on establishing boundaries, and plan retaliation (what will you do when she breaks them), and figure out consequences (what she will do when you put your foot down) I love you. Your feelings on this are valid. She’s being an absolute asshole. /hugs

Anonymous

#2 2w

myself to every person who meets my family so they know why my family calls me something different. my family also takes my silence as permission to be openly transphobic and talk about the “politics” of trans people (ex. bathroom laws) in front of me. it doesn’t get better until you make it better. stick up for yourself.

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Anonymous

#2 2w

I am so sorry you have to deal with that, love /hug It fucking sucks! You can still get out. I know it feels like it’s too late, you are too deep, they will never change. But it’s not. I promise you it’s not. Will it be difficult? FUCK YES! Will it be worth it? I promise you it is. IT FUCKING IS!

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Anonymous

#2 2w

Stand your ground, or cut ties. If you are not worth their time and understanding, they are definitely not worth your time, love