Anonymous #1 2d

Fr like it is that simple. I understand OP is confused but the person in the replies saying you can still be a lesbian is like what

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Anonymous OP 2d

14 people upvoted it too 🫩

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then you don’t go on the internet much.

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also don’t call me babes you don’t know me like that

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they’re not claiming that it does. she explicitly says she’s not attracted to him

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and hey! don’t call me babes, dipshit. you’re not my girlfriend.

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i never see mfs policing gay men calling a woman hot like this but okayb

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repeated crossing of a boundary 😋😋 bye bye

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Anonymous #1 2d

Except it’s not. This post completely ignores the fact that OOP clearly said they weren’t convinced they had any attraction to the guy.

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Anonymous OP 2d

1. She literally said she doesn’t think she’s attracted to him 2. Attraction is different from enjoyment. It’s why some ace people have sex or some aro people go on dates. You don’t have to be attracted to someone to enjoy sex with them how difficult is this to understand

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Anonymous #4 2d

but you’re ignoring the fact that she said she had fun having sex with a man. Even if she doesn’t feel attraction she still got some enjoyment out of sleeping with a man. As a lesbian, the thought of doing that with a guy makes me physically recoil. You’re not a lesbian if you liked sleeping with a guy

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Anonymous #2 2d

you’re missing the fact that she said she had fun sleeping with a man. even if she doesn’t feel attraction she still enjoyed the experience. as a lesbian the thought of sleeping with a guy makes me physically recoil and id assume thats the general consensus amongst other lesbians.

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Anonymous #10 2d

Your personal experience and assumptions don’t negate the fact that a lesbian is someone who is simply not attracted to men. While you may be sex repulsed in that way, there are many who aren’t. There are sex repulsed asexuals and non-sex repulsed asexuals, just the same way some lesbians are men sex repulsed and some aren’t

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Anonymous #10 2d

For many, sexual pleasure can still be felt even when you feel no attraction to the person

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Anonymous #10 2d

Same response to you here

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Anonymous #10 2d

so gold star lesbians are the only lesbians?

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Anonymous #3 2d

i never said that. I think gold star lesbian is a stupid term. Sometimes people need to sleep with men to realize they dont like it but this person had already previously identified as a lesbian and said they enjoyed the sexual encounter even if they weren’t attracted. Just because someone isn’t sexually attracted to men doesn’t automatically make them a lesbian, they could just be asexual

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Anonymous #10 2d

The OP is sexually attracted to women though, and not attracted to men. How does your comment relate here?

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Anonymous #4 2d

I get that others have personal experiences different from my own, but how can there be lesbians that aren’t sex repulsed by men other than because of internalized comphet. like why would a gay man be comfortable with the idea of sleeping with a woman.

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Anonymous #4 2d

well it doesn’t then. but i still dont see a reason why a lesbian would enjoy a sexual encounter with a man not even considering attraction. That enjoyment alone defies what it means to be a lesbian. Lesbian is not some umbrella term.

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Anonymous #10 2d

Nobody’s saying lesbian is an umbrella term. The same is true for gay men, straight men, straight women, etc. You can physically enjoy the sensations of sex without feeling any sexual attraction towards someone. Just because you are sex repulsed by men, does not mean everyone is. Just because YOU don’t see a reason, doesn’t mean there isn’t one. The enjoyment of physical pleasure does not defy what it means to be a lesbian

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Anonymous #10 2d

straight people normalized the phrase "experimented in college" and they're still straight

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Anonymous #4 2d

i guess my point is why would someone feel sexual pleasure from sleeping with someone they’re not sexually attracted to. Thats what confuses me

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Anonymous #10 2d

I'm not sexually attracted to my vibrator

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Anonymous #3 2d

hey so im talking about real living people not inanimate objects built for pleasure

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Anonymous #10 2d

that’s what #3 is saying tho, sexual attraction is more than just getting pleasure out of an activity lol. it’s multifaceted &, if you’re missing every other part of the attraction (e.g. if you don’t feel that intimacy which comes with attraction), then the act of having sex with that group is equivalent to using a vibrator.

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Anonymous #10 2d

It’s a physical sensation that feels good

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Anonymous #11 2d

alright yeah that makes more sense. thank you

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Anonymous #10 2d

ofc, it’s confusing to think abt so I get it

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Anonymous #4 2d

i get that, its just that in my experience i dont feel good physically if i dont like the person but thats obviously not the case for everyone and i understand that now

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Anonymous #9 1d

good thing you don’t get to decide someone else’s sexuality then!

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Anonymous #12 1d

I don’t, but I can give my opinion on the general situation.

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Anonymous #9 1d

you're discoursing abt a real person so your unwanted "opinion" is rude. you can do anything, including being a shitty person 👍

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Anonymous #11 1d

The person literally asked for people’s opinions. Grow tf up

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Anonymous #16 4h

if you can’t comprehend the difference between offering an opinion and dictating with utter certainty the life of another person, then you need to grow tf up 👍

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Anonymous #11 4h

I can. The person did no such thing. Hope this helps!

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