Wym people like me?

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Anonymous #1 3d

the whole point of lesbianism is that they’re only attracted to women & potentially enby folk. you cannot be a lesbian & fuck men. that’s not how that works.

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Anonymous #4 3d

Exactly. You’re saying the exact same thing that homophobic men tell us. “You can still like a guy” “you can make an exception” “I can turn you”

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Anonymous #4 2d

lesbian sex workers exist… not commenting on OPs situation but there are lesbians who have sex with men. sexual behavior/history is not the same as someone’s sexuality.

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Anonymous #7 2d

yes! this! i enjoy the sensations of sex but not the person himself

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Anonymous #3 2d

You do understand that a lesbian deciding to have sex with a man and someone else mentioning that the Kinsey scale exists is a completely different thing from someone going “you’ll fuck a man someday”, right???

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Anonymous #1 2d

if you enjoy having sex with men YOU ARE NOT A LESBIAN. you are a bisexual. you can be a bisexual woman who is physically but not romantically attracted to men. the same way someone who’s actually straight doesn’t consider sleeping w someone of the same sex the concept applies to lesbians or gay men. getting so sick and fucking tired of people acting like bisexuality is some sort of temporary mood swing they can flip flop between when they feel like it. just disrespectful.

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Anonymous #10 2d

You’ve so clearly never heard of experimenting. Straight people do occasionally sleep with someone they aren’t necessarily attracted to out of curiosity. It’s literally a whole thing and also the exact same thing op is talking about so calm down maybe

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Anonymous #9 2d

not trying to encourage bierasure! i contemplated bisexuality, apart from the fact that I’m simply not into men. sex is fun, but it’s pleasure from sensation not from the person I’m with. thanks for all the kind words!

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Anonymous #10 2d

why do you care so much about what a stranger identifies as? it’s not that serious. we’re persecuted regardless of how much you whine abt other people’s identities. someone who’s questioning shouldn’t be cast out of their community or label lmao. this is a braindead discourse.

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Anonymous #2 1d

Labels mean things

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Anonymous #5 1d

this is the best reply I’ve seen under this. If OP tried sex out w a guy and enjoyed the experience that is not really something that coincides with the lesbian identity and I think if she wants to explore what it meant to her then doing so without the label would provide more clarity 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous c3brus 1d

That’s fucking stupid

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Anonymous #6 1d

I would agree but the last part is specifically in reference to enjoying the physical pleasure from sex rather than experiencing the multifaceted intimacy and enjoyment that comes with sex w/ someone you’re attracted to. if you enjoyed having sex with a man in the same way you would if you used your vibrator, you probs aren’t attracted to men. many lesbians are sex-repulsed from men but you don’t have to be sex-repulsed from men to be a lesbian.

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Anonymous #11 1d

THANK YOU! I typed out essentially all of this but I backed out and lost it and couldn’t be damned to write it again. This 100%!!!

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Anonymous #10 1d

I disagree. I understand why this, on the surface, seems reasonable. But I think it’s actually quite dangerous. This logic could be used to delegitimize the identities of trans women who “appear to cis” in the eyes of the community, something that’s already happening, and I should not need to say *is a problem* The question I have is where do you draw the line? What criteria qualifies you as a lesbian? And if there is not a simple-common sense basis, shouldn’t it be left to the individual?

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