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LGBTQIA+ 1d

so tired of men forcing themselves on to lesbians

LGBTQIA+ 1d

what's wrong with lesbians fucking men

Anonymous 20h

Im talking about the comments and im pretty sure this post is too, but im pretty sure ik the podcast the og post was talking about tho, and they pretty regularly have tone deaf takes on lesbians (I mean the two main hosts are bisexual so you’d hope they’d have lesbian friends but ig not) one clip I’ve seen they discuss what defines lesbianism and how fluidity comes into that without a lesbian in the room, they acknowledge that some lesbian are mad at that rhetoric that we can change but dont go

Anonymous 1d

yeah also that just fucking embarrassing😭😭

Anonymous 19h

let’s wind it back everyone. lesbianism is when a woman loves another woman. if a “lesbian” is fucking a man with enthusiastic consent, they’re not a lesbian. thank you have a good day

Anonymous 1d

i'm sorry?? you can dislike the post but maybe don't say "lesbians can have sex with men" means "men forcing themselves onto lesbians" ?????

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Anonymous 1d

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Anonymous

#3 1d

what even is your point??😐

Anonymous

#1 23h

you don't see how it's weird to say men are FORCING THEMSELVES onto lesbians? i don't give a shit about the discourse either way, but that's fucked up

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Anonymous

#3 23h

It means forcing themselves into our spaces think for one second pls

Anonymous

#4 23h

you are a moron. log off

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Anonymous

#3 20h

Men do force themselves on lesbians though, have you heard of ‘corrective’ rape? Its a named ‘fetish’ you can easily find looking for regular lesbian nsfw content, Its not weird for this to hit a nerve with some of us when some of us have been targeted by that kind of sexual violence, it gets watered down into the mainstream too, like drake’s “you say that you’re a lesbian girl me to” which sounds like one of the dudes in the comments is mocking, that and druski’s recent stud obsession..

Anonymous

#6 20h

Though these are usually conversations ive had with other lesbians and other queer women that have experienced this fetishizing to some level, but I’ve absolutely seen conversations about this started by other lesbians, its the driving force of a lot of the hate crimes we experience unfortunately

Anonymous

#6 20h

Seen convos online*

Anonymous

#6 20h

i know about corrective rape, that's part of why i feel its incredibly tone deaf to say men are "forcing themselves on to lesbians" about a post that says its fine if a lesbian has sex with a man. rape and sexual assault are disgusting, so why are we using that language here?

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Anonymous

#6 20h

i don't think non lesbians should try to infiltrate lesbian spaces, i don't think we should demonize lesbians for just being lesbians "wrong", and i think this post is poorly worded

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Anonymous

#6 20h

-Any deeper than that and only validate each other’s feelings in how they feel out of place being so fluid, also sorry this was a reply to #3 😭

Anonymous

#6 19h

Oh i think i found the clip the post is talking about, its a little worse than i expected, they start by talking about if you can choose to be lesbian while “fucking a guy a year” or wtvr, the host brings up a male friend they have that slept with a lesbian couple and made a comment about them going “dick crazy” so yeah i stand by what I said they’re absolutely playing into this, they called lesbians that don’t resonate with that “purists” bro

Anonymous

#6 19h

oh that's so bizarre what the hell actually

Anonymous

#3 19h

I posted it but yeah i was not prepared, like why are we being bioessentialist?? 😭

Anonymous

#7 15h

This yak really goes through mood swings on whether it’ll receive transphobic comments with positivity or negativity. Today they chose positivity judging by the upvotes on this

Anonymous

#3 15h

Ppl love using terribly inappropriate and uncalled for language to make their argument sound better. It’s weird af

Anonymous

#8 14h

did you mean to reply to my comment? i’m confused. i’m not being transphobic🫩

Anonymous

#7 14h

“When a woman loves another woman” leaves out nonbinary lesbians

Anonymous

#8 14h

omfg. merriam webster defines a lesbian as “of, relating to, or characterized by sexual or romantic attraction to other women or between women.” that is the commonly accepted definition. nb people can absolutely be lesbians- and i never said that wasn’t the case. i was just stating the commonly accepted definition because there are idiots in these comments that think men are included in that definition. if you’re looking for a reason to be mad, you’ll always find it 🤷‍♂️

Anonymous

#7 14h

So if the Merriam Webster definition leaves out nonbinary lesbians (a huge category) it makes sense to me that it would leave out other nuances as well. For example trans men who have identified as lesbians their entire life before transitioning. Historically they were still lesbians, they identified as lesbians, they were loved by lesbians. It would be ridiculous to tell a lesbian who has been with them that they aren’t a lesbian. Butchness has always been tied to transness.

Anonymous

#7 14h

It is strange to me that ppl try to make something so nuanced fit into a rigid definition like this

Anonymous

#8 14h

i’m not arguing with you over smth that wasn’t even the point of my comment. lesbians don’t fuck men unless they’re not lesbians.

Anonymous

#8 14h

okay!

Anonymous

#7 14h

I’m arguing against your point

Anonymous

#8 14h

okay! have fun

Anonymous

#7 14h

Glad to see you accept that lesbians can fuck men

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Anonymous

#8 14h

i don’t, i’m just not arguing with you lmao