Anonymous #1 1w

Thank you, it’s just been really hard recently, but I think we’ll get through it

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Anonymous OP 1w

I hope you’ve talked to her about it because i hate it when miscommunication ends a friendship :( And if she doesn’t take it seriously then i hope you can move on peacefully u deserve better

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’m a little nervous to bc last time I confronted her abt something she got really aggressive? She doesn’t know how to manage her emotions well sometimes, so I tried to talk to her abt something super hurtful that she was doing and she stormed off and started slamming doors and drawers and it’s lwk… uncomfortable. I’ve been building up the courage to try to talk to her about it again though

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Anonymous #1 1w

also it is totally justified for you to be extremely pissed but i just want to mention that sometimes phrasing things like for example “I felt ignored” instead of “you ignored me” might make her more open to communication 🫡 Although the latter one would be justified anyway lol

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Anonymous OP 1w

Oh girl wtf i’m so sorry. nvm she might not even be open to communication if she’s getting aggressive

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeahh, I really try to only focus on “I statements” when explaining things to her so she doesn’t feel antagonized

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeahhh, I used to live with her last year, and now I live w different friends which is much nicer

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Anonymous OP 1w

Gosh i’m glad u got out of there 😭Having that distance is esp really important to recognize that you weren’t being treated well

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Anonymous #1 1w

Is it always the same aggression whenever u bring anything up? Like even smth small like hey did you do the dishes?

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeahhh, tbh people in my life are split, my family, therapist, and outside friends think that some of her mean/strange comments are intentional, and the other half, our mutual friends and me, think that she’s just ignorant to how her words/thoughts could affect others

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Anonymous #1 1w

I generally let small things go nowadays, little stuff doesn’t get me down and I try every day to let go of those small things, so I really only “confront” her if she’s doing something long term that’s affectingme

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Anonymous OP 1w

Honestly that split of people is slightly sus like only the people who are mutual friends with her are leaning towards trying to excuse the behavior. a lot of times it’s really hard to recognize harmful behavior when they’re your friend

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Anonymous #1 1w

I don’t think they’re bad intentioned btw i just think it’s like the rose tinted glasses

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeahh, but I’m worried that I’m expressing a biased opinion towards my friends and therapist so it’s kind of like a grain of salt situation

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Anonymous OP 1w

I totally get that but tbh you shouldn’t have to let stuff go just because she doesn’t react well

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Anonymous #1 1w

Omg she and our other friend just last minute canceled our usual Saturday lunch bc “we made lunch plans at dinner last night (double date we were obviously not there for lol)” didn’t even apologize for forgetting to tell us

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Anonymous OP 1w

Bruhhh i’m so sorry 😭 yeah you need to let go of her

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