Anonymous #1 1d

Well aren’t you just a dick rider agreeing this POV then? Very telling.

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Anonymous #1 1d

Yeah it’s super tiring seeing the same harmful rhetoric constantly circulated. And some people agree with it without realizing the harm is can cause and where it often stems from. When most adults read less than a book a year, we have bigger battles to fight than which genre preference someone has. And there’s merit in them all. Life’s too short to read things you’re not enjoying.

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Anonymous #3 23h

maybe since they’re interested in romance & I’m completely uninterested, they’ll try bridging that gap with something in between. but I still don’t get that since I’ll explicitly say I don’t like romance. I also had one guy tell me that “everyone likes romance” and that I must’ve been a terrible partner for not liking any romance. idk, maybe it’s because we can’t connect in romance that I’ve had so many bad experiences, but that would just give me more reason to avoid them..

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Anonymous #3 18h

What you read at the end of the day is on you. You can make educated decisions to listen to recs or not. I get being frustrated if you ask for no romance and are recommended it anyway, but I’ve had that happen with every genre. I don’t want a book with SA in it. People still constantly tell me to read Red Rising and Poppy War. That doesn’t mean all scifi or fantasy readers are a problem. You’re still targeting romance readers over other genres when it’s not a genre problem.

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Anonymous #3 18h

And we can all use anecdotal evidence to say xyz readers suck. I’m more worried about the people who think Lolita is a love story than someone who can’t see past their own genre preference. And when 95% of books nowadays have a romance subplot, do you expect to never encounter it? As a bookseller, I have 10x more problems with fantasy bros speaking over me than romance readers. Not everything is an attack or an attempt to waste your time.

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Anonymous OP 17h

if someone assures me something doesn’t have romance and then it has romance, how is it on me for trusting them?? they lied to me and blatantly disrespected my preference. you’re complaining about what I want to read when YOU said “read what you enjoy!!” do you not see the hypocrisy?

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Anonymous OP 17h

and you’re acting like me saying “I’ve had bad experiences” is somehow a crucifixion of romance readers as if I didn’t gave a reasonable example of why it might’ve happened. thanks for contributing to the number of shitty romance readers I’ve had to deal with 👍

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Anonymous #3 17h

I’m not even a romance reader 🫩 I am saying the same fucking thing has happened to me on numerous occasions with every other genre. But go off! Keep having a narrow ass view of a whole demographic. As if that’s never led to any harm…

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Anonymous #3 17h

Like have so much fun making assumptions about people you don’t know. You’re literally part of the problem in this community but you won’t see beyond your own anecdotes. Hate every romance reader out there. No one gives a fuck. If people just talked about what they enjoyed here, this wouldn’t be a problem. But y’all have made it a problem.

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Anonymous OP 17h

maybe it hasn’t happened because you don’t have a preference that they can blatantly disrespect? asking why I’ve had a bad experience isn’t “having a narrow worldview,” I’m quite literally asking for another perspective. YOU have the narrow worldview that I have to be ok reading shit I don’t want to & that it’s ok for someone to lie to me because of it. YOU think it’s an attack because you’re a hammer only seeing nails. if you want me to rethink your perspective, then rethink yours.

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Anonymous #3 17h

As a rape survivor, I have people regularly recommend me books with rape in them when I ask them not to. I was also raped by a fantasy reader. So I guess fuck all fantasy readers, right? I never said you had to be okay with it. All I said was that this is a people problem, not a genre problem. But keep putting words in people’s mouths. You can research a book someone recommends to see if it has romance in it before reading it. Is it annoying? Yes. It is a reason to shit on a whole community? No.

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Anonymous #3 17h

Like you’re responding to a post that is attacking a whole community in agreement. Whether you have had bad experiences or not, you are still contributing to harm.

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Anonymous OP 17h

“if everyone talked about what they enjoyed then there wouldn’t be a problem” so we can’t complain about anything? the political system? misogyny? bigotry? we can’t all hold hands and be happy by ignoring shit, and YOU didnt either with this post. and again, I’m sharing something bad that’s happened to me and opening up discussion for why. how tf could I be more open in my perspective? maybe it’s because YOU’RE being narrow-minded. YOU can’t accept that someone else has had bad experiences.

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Anonymous OP 17h

where did I say I agreed with the post 💀 romance readers don’t pmo, but romance readers ice interacted with commonly disrespect me. I give a possible reason for why that might happen. you decide it’s an attack on all romance readers when I’m LITERALLY saying I don’t know why it happens. instead of being a hypocrite, try considering how you simply don’t understand the situation.

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