Ask Women on Sidechat | So I decided I was going to break up with him. This wasn’t the only reason, but this was the wakeup call of what I could possibly be dealing with in the future. I try drafting a breakup text, it always gets too long, though. How do I shorten it?

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Ask Women 17h

So I decided I was going to break up with him. This wasn’t the only reason, but this was the wakeup call of what I could possibly be dealing with in the future. I try drafting a breakup text, it always gets too long, though. How do I shorten it?

Ask Women 21h

My boyfriend told me that the thing that scares him the most about me is my independence and that I don’t NEED him, which makes him feel that he provides nothing to the relationship since I’m not dependent on him. Am I wrong for thinking that this is a 🚩?

Anonymous 16h

Don’t list every problem or don’t you had in your relationship. Make it vague, general, and not unkind. If you think it’s safe, I’d tell him in person or over the phone, but if you don’t want to I’d understand. Also if you wanna tell me the message I can help more lmao Good luck <3

Anonymous 15h

Girl i had this same issue where i would have to keep on explaining myself. Literally no man is ever worth your peace. If he keeps asking but whyyyy then just be direct firm and respectful. Say “i already mentioned it multiple times, i am not repeating myself again”. You deserve better and hell yeah for being independent!!

Anonymous 15h

I wouldnt reccomend losing your patience. It sounds like you genuinely have given him enough chances and your independence should be over anyyyy man. You are your first priority. You got this babe!

Anonymous 12h

Girl, be a fucking adult and break up with him via call or face to face. Doing it over text just tells me how uninvested in this relationship you are, and need to gtfo

Anonymous

#1 16h

It’s not that it’s a huge list of problems, it’s just one massive issue (comprised of many individual problems that I didn’t mention in the message) that has gotten so severe that I wanted to stop being with him, I just get so angry every time I try to explain it and then it starts to drag on But I do really appreciate your advice! <3

Anonymous

#2 15h

Right!!! And my thing is that I first started by being nice about it, then moving into being more firm, then turning into being straight up mean, now at the point of mocking/making fun of him over it (because the independence thing wasn’t the only thing that he would act like this about) and for some of them, I’ve heard it so many times that it’s pissing me off

Anonymous

#2 15h

Thanks!! Atp I’m just trying to figure out how to write out this text without losing it (hence why I haven’t called him to tell him or met up in person for it, because I’m still genuinely so angry), because part of it is that he’s done a lot of good but a lot of bad as well

Anonymous

#3 12h

We’re LDR and every time we try to call, there’s always some reason (usually on his end) why we can’t, plus this man is the same one who once threw a fit because I wanted to take a couple inches off my hair 😭