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I really need help. Idk what more to say to her. I feel I’m doing most things right and have been in intimate relationships before. Nothing seems to work. Please ladies let me know.
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My gf doesn’t like sex. We’ve been dating for over 6 months. Physical intimacy is very important to me. At the beginning of our relationship we would have more intimate moments now it’s dry. When I ask her she doesn’t know why. What should I do?
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Anonymous 3w

Why would you date her if she doesn’t like sex and intimacy is important to you? Yall clearly are not compatible.. your only options are to 1. Break up or 2. Settle for no sex. It is wrong for you to pressure her into sexual activity she doesn’t want.

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Anonymous 3w

I went through something similar as the low-libido partner. It’s very confusing. Since she’s a woman, it could boil down to hormones. Stress can be extremely impactful on a woman’s libido comparatively, in my experience. I eventually bounced back but constant conversations about it just kinda stressed me out more and gave me a sort of performance anxiety.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

That’s what I’m thinking. I’m staying cause initially there was intimacy and now it’s gone. So…

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

No one should ever feel like they need to have sex when they don’t want to. If she doesn’t like sex then that’s that, deal with it or end it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

So then does she just not like sex? Have yall talked about this?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

We have talked about this. I can’t get a straight answer… she says that she loves me and I believe her im just thinking that maybe there are other factors such as stress from school and other things. Nothing changes after we talk but I still love her.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I know. I don’t pressure her we just talk and I’m very respectful about it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Thank you for this. I think we’ve talked about it enough and I’m going to give some healthy space to her. Can I ask how you came back from low libido?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Personal changes tbh. I was working a Saturday-Wednesday 3-11 am shift and only ever saw my partner and coworkers for months. Even when I did see my partner, it was for like 30 minutes when he was getting off work and I was going in. I wasn’t sleeping and I was overall miserable. Now I work a m-f 3-11 pm shift and I’m doing so much better and far less stressed

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

We also kinda “schedule” when we’ll have sex because I don’t operate well having sex on a whim. So that way I have the day to sort of mentally prepare and get in the headspace of wanting to have sex. I can’t speak for all women but I think a lot of us struggle with getting in the mood on the flip of a coin, it’s much more mental than physical for us

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