Anonymous #1 14h

Just about everything is labeled as creepy or weird

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Anonymous #2 14h

So do you want to approach? Do you date at all

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Anonymous #1 14h

I’m socially awkward so I don’t cause I’m more than likely gonna come off as aloof

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Anonymous #2 14h

I’m awkward too but honest

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Anonymous #1 14h

We just wish women expressed when appropriate times to approach are instead of listing all the inappropriate times. Men don’t know when they are safe to approach anymore because it has been stated to be bad at some point.

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Anonymous OP 13h

Im a girl. I often times get guys staring at me in the mall and I’d wished they come up. The bar ofc, if I’m at an event, even a grocery store. I don’t like the stares that personality creeps me out

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Anonymous #3 13h

Ofc not

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Anonymous #4 13h

That sounds backwards

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Anonymous #1 13h

No I honestly with them. If they know approaching would make some women uncomfortable it’s best not to risk it. I

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Anonymous #3 13h

Idk bc the alternative is them staring which is weirder. I wouldn’t mind if they did it respectfully

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Anonymous #1 13h

The problem is, some do.

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Anonymous #1 13h

Yeah but a lot of us would. I mean theoretically I wouldn’t if they did so respectfully but unfortunately enough men have been disrespectful at this point for a lot of us their is a panic response when any guy comes up bc like 5 times out of 7 it has not been respectful so we just end up bracing for the worst. Which kinda sucks for everyone involved but what can you do :/

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Anonymous #1 13h

I don’t stare, I glance once and think “damn she seems so cool, I’ve got no chance” and go on about my business

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Anonymous #3 13h

I don’t want to be bothered by the idea of men approaching me but when I have to freak out and question “is this going to be a nice interaction, or another one of the times I get physically threatened” I would just prefer to be left alone

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Anonymous #4 13h

Idk my take is that you don’t know. A lot of women don’t, a lot of women do

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Anonymous #3 13h

Which is understandable. The whole #MeToo movement stopped most men from approaching. We’re just getting too many mixed messages, which is why we usually refrain. I’d love to approach women, but I refrain for these very reasons.

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Anonymous #4 12h

Which i respect. I do think it’s a shame bc I know there are a lot of good guys and it would be great if yall could approach us without having to worry, I’m sure it sucks on yalls end and it’s not your fault. But there are just SO MANY bad men who have completely ruined it, like no matter how much I want to I just genuinely cannot feel safe or comfortable when a guy approaches bc it’s like “oh gosh am I gonna get stalked? Assaulted” and unfortunately those are not just paranoid assumptions but

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Anonymous #3 12h

Fears from irl experiences. :/ So I rly appreciate the good guys who have just understood the reasoning and not tried to push themselves on women. Idk what to tell the girls who still want to be approached though, honestly maybe it’s time they just approach the guys they’re interested in

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Anonymous #3 12h

That doesn’t work either sadly they still just start least in my experience. Or get insanely nerovus

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Anonymous #1 12h

I don’t know many guys that would hate a woman approaching them. Now, I would definitely strike up a conversation if I was approached at a bar. I can understand how it would be frightening though.

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Anonymous #4 12h

They don’t hate it they just get nervous. I’m big on communication and the few times I have it’s been a bust. Even tho I’m Good looking so I just think that’s not for me

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Anonymous #5 33m

That’s exactly what I’m trying to say! I hate the social media aspect of it

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