Anonymous #1 8w

guess a ton of men aren’t normal then. and why would women like OOP be complaining that abnormal men aren’t asking women out?

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Anonymous #2 8w

Right, a ton of men aren’t normal and don’t know how to talk to women like they’re real people. And it doesn’t sound like she was, she was just asking why men in general don’t seem to ask women out anymore

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Anonymous #1 8w

Is that a bad thing that men aren’t asking women out?

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Anonymous #2 8w

I don’t think it’s good or bad, women have the ability to ask people out if they want to. I’m not a fan of enforced gender roles. But I think the men who keep saying they’re afraid of SA allegations just from asking people out need to take a hard look at how they go about doing that, because that’s not a normal fear to have in that scenario

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Anonymous #1 8w

It’s one thing to be afraid of rejection, but if you’re worried you’re going to be reported for sexual harassment just for giving someone a compliment or asking them on a date? Might want to double check what you consider a compliment and an appropriate time/place to ask

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Anonymous #1 8w

Clearly it is a normal fear if so many men fear it

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Anonymous #2 8w

No, it’s not. You’re so close to realizing that a LOT of men are not well adjusted people and don’t view/treat women as people deserving of respect. Like 3 and 4 said, if your method of chatting/flirting is getting you reported for sexual harassment or assault, that’s not normal and you need to reevaluate your actions and mindset

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Anonymous #1 8w

Obviously people aren’t actually getting reported, they’re just afraid that mass hysteria around SA will lead to them being reported in spite of having done nothing wrong.

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Anonymous #2 8w

Most people never report

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Anonymous #1 8w

Mass hysteria which you are contributing to by suggesting every man afraid of being reported for SA just secretly wants to commit it.

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Anonymous #3 8w

What does that have to do with anything

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Anonymous #2 8w

You could downright rape a girl and more likely than not you’re never going to get reported

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Anonymous #2 8w

Again the people with that mindset aren’t normal and need to reevaluate some things. By mass hysteria do you just mean people caring about SA more than they previously have? That’s a good thing, it’s a serious problem, if you’re afraid you’ll be labeled as a sexual predator you need to dig a bit deeper. False accusations are very rare and even true allegations barely affect the lives of abusers

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Anonymous #1 8w

No, I mean being so hyperneurotic that you ASSUME EVERY ANXIOUS GUY WITH AN IRRATIONAL FEAR IS A POTENTIAL ABUSER

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Anonymous #1 8w

Guys aren’t allowed to have anxiety apparently

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Anonymous #2 8w

I never said they all secretly want to assault people, I’m saying they’re probably talking to women in a way that’s disrespectful. If you hear a no or anything that means no just leave without begging for her to change her mind, leave her alone if she’s with friends, don’t stare at people and follow them around while they’re shopping etc

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Anonymous #1 8w

It’s literally OCD and Anxiety. How do you not understand this. Yeah it’s irrational, big whoop.

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Anonymous #1 8w

That is still an insane assumption to make.

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Anonymous #1 8w

The implication is that we don’t think no means no, when we obviously do.

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Anonymous #1 8w

Holy shit

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Anonymous #1 8w

The gaslighting is ridiculous

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Anonymous #2 8w

Please stop spamming me if you want to have an actual discussion! I have ocd and anxiety too so I get it. But this is a sign to get therapy for your irrational fears. It’s good that you’ve recognized that these fears are irrational and being reported is not actually something that you should be worried about, the next step is to work on internalizing that, which will take time

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Anonymous #1 8w

Aaand of course he blocked me when he realized he was flipping out :P

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Anonymous #1 8w

It’s okay, he’s obviously no older than 15 anyways.

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Anonymous #3 8w

I do sincerely hope he gets therapy because it sounds like he’s struggling really bad with the irrational fears and that shit will ruin you. Needs help with his attitude too though

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Anonymous #3 8w

I mean come on, saying title IX, a law which only applies to activities that occur on public schools, is the reason you can’t ask out girls is pretty clear sign he is still a child.

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Anonymous #1 8w

I had therapy for social anxiety in high school too, it really sucks. Hope you get healthier op

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Anonymous #3 8w

You don’t have to mention or imply sex for it to count as sexual harassment.

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Anonymous #3 8w

Title IX does not just apply to public schools. The law applies to all schools receiving even a single cent of federal funding. As a result, colleges receiving such funding are legally mandated to stop sex-based discrimination. Sexual harassment is a form of sex-based discrimination. Even a one-time asking out can count as sexual harassment if she didn’t want to be asked out.

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Anonymous #5 8w

You don’t have to do anything egregious in order to run afoul of federal guidance and regulations.

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