Anonymous #2 9w

Tf is larping

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Anonymous beestboy 9w

I beg to differ Its always ‘whats ur snap’

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Anonymous OP 9w

No woman has ever asked that it’s always an onlyfans bot or man in disguise

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Anonymous #2 9w

Why would a man ask that on ask men

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Anonymous OP 9w

Idk but it happens. All I know is that (most) women get asked out and hit on so often that they want it to stop

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Anonymous OP 9w

Girl r u talking about on yy??

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Anonymous #2 9w

Hit on yes

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Anonymous #2 9w

I’m a woman and I’m deadass curious too sooo tf we talking abt that’s a valid ass question 💀

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Anonymous beestboy 9w

No babe Who tf asks someone out on yikyak

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Anonymous OP 9w

You’re saying in person guys are coming up to talk to you asking for ur snap???

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Anonymous beestboy 9w

Yes

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Anonymous #2 9w

Getting hit on is not the same as asking women out that’s the damn problem go look up the difference or sum if u need to

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Anonymous #4 9w

An actual answer

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Anonymous OP 9w

Well here might be an answer. Many men are respectful of women and have heard that they want to be left alone, so they leave them alone. The men who are willing to approach women aren’t as respectful of them, therefore they catcall, touch, etc. and since these are the guys women are interacting with the most this is why women think all men are like this. Part of us aren’t willing to go after women at all, part of us are too comfortable going after women, if you will.

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Anonymous OP 9w

Bear in mind you can ask out men too, your success rate will be much higher than any man’s and most of us dream of being asked out

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Anonymous #2 9w

No actually there is a way to talk to women respectfully

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Anonymous #5 9w

Why wouldnt u

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Anonymous OP 9w

And its deadass not hard to be respectful

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Anonymous #2 9w

I do And im successful But damn what if i dont wanna be the man for once

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Anonymous #6 9w

Noice

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Anonymous OP 9w

Many women have made it clear they don’t want to be interacted with *at all*, and even if they do, you’re still more likely to get harshly rejected than to get a yes. And that’s another thing, it’s so much damn effort. You’ll get rejected dozens of times without a yes, spending lots of time and money you could be putting to more productive things. And one thing for me personally, idk when or where it’s acceptable.

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Anonymous OP 9w

It’s not about being a “man”, that’s patriarchal gender role bullshit. Remember that

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Anonymous OP 9w

Okay I understand now u must be a teenager

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Anonymous beestboy 9w

U def do not understand Ur doing great sweetie

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Anonymous OP 9w

I don’t ngl I can’t even fathom a man walking up to a woman both in their early / mid 20s and saying what’s ur snap

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Anonymous beestboy 9w

Well they do And that is when a harsh rejection comes out

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Anonymous OP 9w

So fair , ppl too grown for that

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Anonymous #7 9w

Ok Well im impatient so

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Anonymous OP 9w

If you’re impatient then you should be asking men out yourself, which seems like you have been, so good on you.

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Anonymous #7 9w

Yeah well obviously nothing worked out so

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Anonymous OP 9w

Where are you from that an assertive woman gets no results?? That’s crazy to me

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Anonymous #7 9w

From where men are scared of assertive women And are seen as too much

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Anonymous #8 9w

Ig thats why dating apps are so big, never understood not approaching someone, thats how u socialize in person

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Anonymous OP 9w

Good way to catch a case if you approach the wrong person

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Anonymous #8 9w

The only way u can catch a case that way is if YOU do sum weird shit

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Anonymous #3 9w

That’s just not true, saw a video the other day of a woman not paying attention and backing into a man and then her yelling that he assaulted her, thankfully everyone around saw the bullshit

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Anonymous #8 9w

How many people do u personally know who do that on the daily

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Anonymous #8 9w

They were in a line for something and she cut. She shoved him back and claimed he had grabbed her. In the video every single person who saw (including women) call her out. That’s not normal behavior for anyone

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Anonymous #9 9w

Sexual assault isn’t normal and women still have every reason to be weary of men

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Anonymous #4 9w

it’s all about the approach

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Anonymous #8 9w

I have no dog in this hunt but for the love of God, it is WARY! It is not weary or leery ffs

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Anonymous #11 9w

Not when they tell you to absolutely not do it 😭

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Anonymous #2 9w

what women that you didn’t know before the encounter has said this to you ? and i’ve never heard someone say hey don’t you dare approach her .

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Anonymous #7 9w

THIS IS THE ONE AND ONLY CORRECT ANSWER

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Anonymous #8 9w

That’s very much false. Incredibly attractive women like to humble brag that getting approached is annoying, but all straight women do like to get approached by men that don’t give the creeps

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Anonymous #16 9w

In this day and age, open mouths don’t get fed either

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Anonymous #2 8w

Damn that’s the best calling someone out on their propagation of the patriarchy i’ve seen

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Anonymous #3 8w

in the same way *some* women have internalized “all men have potential to be dangerous” and move warily in accordance, *some* men have internalized “ All women have the potential to harshly reject me” and move warily in accordance. It’s patriarchal gender role construction and the solution is to start approaching men and when approached, reject men directly and softly (ie a direct no but not rude unless they’re persistent)

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Anonymous #20 8w

Well they are right But what i meant was i just dont wanna be the first to make the first move for once

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Anonymous OP 8w

You are unfortunately experiencing what it feels like to be a man in dating. The extremist voices of *some* women have “poisoned the well” of the good man’s approach and made it much harder for women such as yourself to find places where good men will approach you. It is a very intersectional issue unfortunately, so age, race, and local sociology also play a factor in your personal experience.

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Anonymous OP 8w

also for clarity when i say “man in dating” im referring to the experience of having to approach, face rejection, and absence of proactive suitors

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Anonymous #20 8w

Yeah i understood, idk i dont like the idea of choosing to not put urself out there. i know why, but not going for anything is a 100% gaurentee nothing will happen

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Anonymous OP 8w

this is true, and if both men and women came together and committed to putting themselves out there more and protecting the people’s feelings that put themselves out there instead of men blaming women and women blaming men for the issues they face, the dating scene would be a lot less insufferable.

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Anonymous #20 8w

Agreed

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Anonymous OP 8w

Or you’re just chopped

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Anonymous #21 8w

I aint baby

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Anonymous OP 8w

That response doesn’t help your case lol

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Anonymous #5 8w

If i thought i was chopped that would be worse

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Anonymous OP 8w

If you thought you were chopped you wouldn’t be thinking you weren’t?

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Anonymous #21 8w

What?

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Anonymous OP 8w

If you thought you were chopped you wouldn’t be thinking you aren’t chopped it’s contradictory

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Anonymous #21 8w

Not necessarily, ppl my entire life have told me that im pretty its like the only thing they tell me i also used to be a model. Beauty is also subjective, people might not agree, but when most people u meet in life tell u ur gorgeous including complete strangers, more often than not u are considered attractive.

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Anonymous OP 8w

If you’re truly model level attractive you can literally get a boyfriend tomorrow

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Anonymous #21 8w

Im aware i can its a matter of them not being my type and unfortunately not knowing how to flirt with the ones that are

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