Ask Men on Sidechat | Hi! I’m a big proponent of people should dress how they want, not for others, and I think OP is being pushy. But here’s my question. To everyone saying no. Does it bother you that a lot of women don’t find men attractive due to style. Or do u just notcare

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Ask Men 21h

Hi! I’m a big proponent of people should dress how they want, not for others, and I think OP is being pushy. But here’s my question. To everyone saying no. Does it bother you that a lot of women don’t find men attractive due to style. Or do u just notcare

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why don't men dress more slutty?

Anonymous 21h

I think it’s totally fine if you don’t care but I’m always seen them flip out over the fact that a lot of times it seems like women don’t find men attractive. And as a woman a lot of women I talk to blame that lack of attraction on men’s poor style and grooming. So ig I’m wondering why some men simultaneously seem bothered women aren’t into them but also offended at the idea of dressing in a way women may like

Anonymous 20h

Secret third thing: Some of us don’t believe you. It’s kinda like taking women-to-men dating advice. Guys have largely learned that lesson. If I dressed how some women say they want, I’d look INSANE and nobody would come within 50 feet of me. Now idk if that’s bc it’s objectively bad advice or I’m just not attractive enough to get away with heels & a trashy mesh std-shirt (or whatever). But if I WAS as attractive as the celebrity or model shes picturing in it, it wouldnt much matter what I wore

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Anonymous 20h

I don’t really care much tbh. If someone doesn’t find me attractive because of my style that’s totally fine. I wear my cloths more for my own comfort.

Anonymous 21h

I’m trying to get better style but it’s really just for me to look cooler, if women find it more attractive then it’s just an added bonus. Tired of just dressing plain but don’t really care if others care

Anonymous 19h

honestly couldn't care less😭 im not especially interested in dating anyways so theres not much pressure to try to be attractive to anyone anyways, and people are allowed to find whatever they want attractive its not really anyone else's problem

Anonymous 20h

I don’t care what people think of my style my baggy sweats and shirts with rings and earrings I’m the flyest mf in the south

Anonymous 21h

hi op of the og post, im not trying to come off as pushy. more so trying to let people understand that clothes are clothes and fashion is art.

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Anonymous

#1 21h

Real. Im the same like it feels so good to see a reflection of myself and feel validated by what I wear. Good luck with developing your style! I feel like options are so limited for men I’m always watching my bf struggle with that.

Anonymous

#2 21h

AFair enough just like. The way I’m reading it feels a little like you’re kinda lecturing men for not dressing in a way you deem attractive.

Anonymous

OP 21h

I’ve got some more fits now, one I just got I can’t really wear till fall though as it’s too hot. Going for more alt styling

Anonymous

OP 21h

they are moreso lecturing me 💀

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Anonymous

OP 14h

It’s because we don’t like those kinds of clothes, we don’t like the way they fit, we don’t like the way they look, they’re expensive and they take too much effort, and we look like idiots in them. We’re not comfortable in that, but clothes that we are comfortable in (like a flannel and jeans, for example) isn’t considered “fashion by that OP” so yeah it’s frustrating when women want something none of us ever wanted to give because it’s just not. Us.

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Anonymous

#3 14h

That’s another thing you mentioned dude, those guys that she posted would literally look good in anything. It’s not about the clothes for them. If the average dude put that on he’d look homeless

Anonymous

#7 13h

I feel like you're projecting your own insecurities onto all men as a whole. I understand you wouldn't like the styles i gave but you also can't speak for all men, and i see a lot of "we" and you shouldn't make generalizations like that. There were plenty of responses on my post of men saying they are trying or are interested in dressing more slutty. I asked the question bc i see online all the time men complaining that they never received compliments or women never approached them 1/2

Anonymous

#2 13h

and ik that can definitely impact your mental health and self esteem so thats why i asked why not dress in a way that could boost your confidence bc thats how it works for me, and i understand that isn't how it works for everyone but there also isn't anything wrong with wanting to explore different styles and how they make you feel

Anonymous

#7 13h

i feel like those were very average guys, at least where i live.

Anonymous

#2 13h

Why do you consider not liking something or something being expensive or too much effort “insecurities”? Lmfao that’s ridiculous. The “we” is there for a very particular reason. There’s a reason most men don’t dress like you put in your photos, and it’s for the reasons I just stated. Why do you have to look like a slut to be confident within yourself? Like that should come from you and your inner strength, not your clothes

Anonymous

#7 13h

it does but i enjoy dressing slutty its fun and makes me feel even more confident, and like unless you have spoken to every single man on the planet you can't speak for them. again there were literally people on my post that said they want to try and do enjoy the style, not to mention the men in the pictures. as for insecurities you've mentioned several times you aren't fit enough to wear it and im assuming you mean by "too much effort" is getting into a shape that you would deem fit.

Anonymous

#2 13h

when i've mentioned several times body type doesn't matter as long as you're confident who gives a fuck?

Anonymous

#7 12h

it's totally okay that you don't like that style and don't want to put effort into! its cleary not you but you can't assume or say that its unheard of or i have high expectations for want to see more men dressed like that. making generalizations is harmful for all parties involved

Anonymous

#2 12h

Weren’t you the one making generalizations earlier by saying that women wouldn’t approach us if we don’t dress like this

Anonymous

#7 12h

i can't remember exactly what i said but still i was wrong for that. i should've said more women would be more likey to approach at least in my experience. i can't speak for all women so i shouldn't have said that.