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So. Update. He’s ace too 😂 (well Demi but still) We’re dating now
You’re cuddling with a girl you like/find attractive. She asks you “is it okay if this is all we do? Like it doesn’t progress?” What’s a normal response, and what’s going through your head?
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Anonymous 5w

Cool

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Anonymous 5w

Aren’t Demi and ace different? Like Demi takes a while to reach that level, while ace has no interest in going to that level and doesn’t expect to?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Demi can develop sexual attraction, ace experiences none. Sex is more neutral for me. I’ve never looked at someone originally thought “i want to have sex with that person/I want to see them naked” He’s able to look at someone he’s known for a bit/developed an interest in and think “yea I’d like to have sex with that person/I want to see them naked”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Ace is the big umbrella, Demi is like a subsection of ace

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Demi is that there has to be a solid emotional connection first, but also most demisexual people are generally not fixated on sex as a part of the relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Would you be ok with them wanting to have sex eventually? Bc in your other post they said “maybe not forever,” right?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Yea, they were more concerned with the idea of never ejaculating for our whole relationship. He’s welcome to masturbate any time he needs/wants and I don’t mind helping, I just wasn’t sure if he would see it as a “need”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Ace CAN experience sexual attraction. There are different types. Sex avoidant is the most common people think of but it’s not the only one.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

Yes, I’m using my personal experience since the question was asked if I personally was open to sex

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