Ask Men on Sidechat | You’re cuddling with a girl you like/find attractive. She asks you “is it okay if this is all we do? Like it doesn’t progress?” What’s a normal response, and what’s going through your head?

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Ask Men 16w

You’re cuddling with a girl you like/find attractive. She asks you “is it okay if this is all we do? Like it doesn’t progress?” What’s a normal response, and what’s going through your head?

Anonymous 16w

“Of course”

Anonymous 15w

I’d just look a bit confused and say something like “huh, I thought this was all we were doing? Maybe add kissing or do this till we fall asleep, but if you don’t want that that’s fine” and probably be embarrassed too.

Anonymous 15w

Great question

Anonymous 16w

I’d have to stop at some point if it was I don’t want a relationship thing not an I don’t want sex thing (idc about sex)

Anonymous

#1 16w

Cool, cool. I don’t think he understands that while I’m sex neutral it doesn’t mean I am open or want sex (I’m ace)

Anonymous

OP 16w

Well that is a different story tbh… probably would be a dealbreaker for me if it will never progress in the future (I interpreted the question as a single night)

Anonymous

#1 16w

Same

Anonymous

#1 16w

He knows I’m ace, I just don’t know how to drive it in his head/manage his expectations

Anonymous 16w

I said verbatim “This is about as far as it will ever progress with me physically. This is what I’m comfortable with, is this going to be enough for you?” And he said “I don’t think so forever but right now this is perfect.” Which is a good answer, but also I would LIKE more, like cool are we sticking to friendship or are you still wanting a relationship with me?

Anonymous

OP 16w

It sounds like you likely aren’t compatible for a long term relationship, but he’s enjoying cuddling with you in the moment.