Anonymous #1 5w

I didn’t actually do it, I was just kinda spiraling after the phone stuff and this was my last-ditch attempt to get closure and see if there was any way I could truly trust him, but me even considering testing him is probs a red flag about the whole relationship. realistically, I don’t think I’ll ever be able to trust him in a way that allows for a healthy, successful relationship

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Anonymous OP 5w

What did he do to cause this distrust

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Anonymous #1 5w

Fr op you can’t leave us hanging like this cause this whole thing is just petal-to-the-metal bonkers😭

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Anonymous #2 5w

My bad, didn’t think anyone cared. some of the main things I found weird was I saw a message on snap from a girl he used to talk to that said “why did you unadd me” which means he added her back for some reason. I also found a gc where his friends were talking about how a girl he used to like is trying to get with him and hyping him up about it and his replies weren’t very dismissive. I tried asking him something I alr knew the answer to, hoping he would be honest but he lied to my face. I also

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Anonymous #2 5w

I also know or know ppl that know a lot of the girls he's slept with and they all said he had a bad rep of ghosting etc. I guess I knew what I was getting myself into but I didn't want to immediately judge him for his past (something he is always defensive/sensitive about whenever I mention it during arguments)

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Anonymous OP 5w

He’s defensive about it bc you’re attackive about it omfg🤦🏻‍♂️! This is even worse than I thought. First, like, un-adding a girl he used to talk to? How in a million years does that mean he added her “back”? It sounds like it was the only time he ever unadded her and it was bc he started dating you. That’s a huge green flag. So’s the fact that he was even SLIGHTLY dismissive of his boys hyping him up. Frankly I have no idea what that looks like bc when your boys’ gc hypes you up, that is NOT t

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Anonymous #2 5w

I didn’t mean the defensive as a bad thing, I point it out as the fact that whenever I try to talk about and tell him why I feel the way I do, he shuts down about it. as for the snap, I know it was recent bc It said “14 day streak ended” something that can’t happen if he unadded her a long time ago. him unadded her around the time we were hanging out, then readding her after us a immediate red flag. saying things like “bro no way” etc is NOT dismissive.

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Anonymous #2 5w

I don’t think any man would want to see there gfs friend hyping and encouraging there friend to get with someone while in a relationship so why would I be okay with that?

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Anonymous #2 5w

he normal response. It sounds like either he knows you go through his phone (so he was being guarded for your sake) or he’s a one in a million choirboy. And why would you trust his bitter former hookups to tell you he ghosted them? Or care? Are you worried he’ll ghost you? He’s your boyfriend, that would be almost unheard of, no? I mean I struggle to see why that would make you suspect infidelity (Not telling you stay, but if u leave, you should maybe… reflect & detox your perspective a bit)

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Anonymous OP 5w

…are you dating his friends? Yeah no man DOES like that. But every man knows it happens and puts up with it bc he knows his gf isnt responsible for her gross and/or single friends. Same way your bf isnt responsible for his. If you dump him over something someone else said, the real problem is you just never liked or valued him much but for some reason you want it to be his fault. My advice: you dont need an excuse. So dont look for one. And dont make one up. Ur allowed to dump him just because.

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Anonymous #3 5w

it was a question, I asked if the reader as a man would find this unforgivable.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Not a question

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