Honestly, just look for YA authors. They tend to focus on story, still have romance, but only allude to sex or include a singular scene on one page 19 chapters in instead of 90% of the book (Current personal favorites are Red Queen, Cruel Prince/Elfhame series in general, and it’s less fantasy more regency with fae is The Rose Bargain, but the sequel won’t come out until next year 😭)