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AITA 35w
Hey all, figured id give an update for all who asked. Me and my fiancé are still together and we talked everything out. My emotions got the best of me for a while and I wasn’t thinking straight. I was just hurt and numb, I was wrong to think badly of him
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AITA 38w
Wibta? I’m debating breaking things off with my fiancé over some shit he’s said. Me and my sister(turning 18 in a month) plan on telling my parents that my brother SA’d us for years when we where younger and he still lives at home (continued in comments)
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Anonymous 35w

The talk happened a few days ago(much earlier than planned) with my parents and unfortunately I no longer have them in my life. There was a lot of screaming and yelling and the cops were called because things got violent. My sister moved in with me the same day and we are safe and we’re currently working on getting a restraining order on both my parents and our brother. This wasn’t the way I wanted things to go but honestly I seen this coming if it went bad. We’re starting therapy in 2 weeks and

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Anonymous 34w

what was your parents logic behind supporting your brother. That he’s innocent and you’re making it up or did they just downplay it. Also was it your parents who got violent or like what escalated the situation?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 35w

Trying to fine a new normal. Things won’t be alright for a while but at least we don’t have to live walking on egg shells wondering what could happen next.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 35w

Im sorry to hear that OP. I know it was and will be hard, but Im proud of you for sticking up for yourself and your sister and trying to do whats best for both of you. Im glad you talked things out with your fiance as well. I wish you the absolute best and stay safe out there

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 35w

i’m so sorry that happened to you. i’m also a csa and incest victim. if you ever need to talk, my dms are open <3 i am so proud of both of you for coming out with your story. i hope therapy goes well

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 35w

You did wonderful- it’s really difficult to confront SA’ers i could never imagine a family member. I’m sorry that happened. Also, a great choice to start therapy.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 34w

I have no idea what their logic is, at one point they said the abuse happened years ago and they down played it and made it sound like it wasn’t that big of a deal because we were all children and that it was “normal” for a boy to want to explore. Even though my brother was 17 when it all started I was 12 and my sister was 10. My mother started the physical altercation by back handing me after I raised my voice at my brother who tried to pin the blame on both me and my sister

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 34w

yeah they’re totally enabling that behavior. Good parents would stick up for the victim not side with the abuser. Boys will be boys is about wrestling and playing video games not sexual assault. Def the best move to distance yourself from that toxicity you and your be in a better place. I’m glad you have each other.

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