And my sister is moving out a week after she turns 18, we’re waiting to do the confrontation until she’s out of the house and SAFE. And we’ve all been talking about the best way to go about the talk. We have everything planned and a day 100% set. My fiancé after me and my sister talked just kind of looks at me and goes “what exactly are you trying to get out of this” and “are you really ready to cut off your entire family if they side with your brother?” And it really rubbed me the wrong way-

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Kinda depends on the intention behind it. Seems like he’s just trying to ask the hard questions about “what happens next?” This is a situation that can turn very messy very fast and he will be helping to pick up the pieces afterward. I feel like it’s good your partner is having that conversation with you to ensure this is something you truly want before it’s too late. So kinda the AH if you just leave him for that unless there’s more to the story.

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I would definitely talk to him about it. Let him know that it rubbed you the wrong way. Mention how big of a deal this is and that your intentions are to close a door that was painful and let go of it finally. Also that you are aware of the effects of this talk and that u are ready to close off your family if they don’t support. I would tell him that you need his support when things get challenging and that his words hurt you to the point of you considering calling it off.

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You are right to seek justice and I am wishing you all the best! Personally, it seems to me that your fiancée was trying to better understand the situation and your feelings around it. The situation you are in with your family is deeply complex and intense. What you are about to do will change your life forever. I don’t think asking these critical questions were unwarranted. You should be careful not to deflect your stress onto others during this time.

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