Anonymous #1 2w

At the moment I am dependent on them for college and medical expenses so distance isn’t an option. I also unfortunately love them and just became an aunt to three adorable kids this year (both my sister-in-law’s were pregnant and one had irish twins) and I don’t want them growing up never hearing other opinions or being able to talk to anyone about different beliefs

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Anonymous OP 2w

Well sounds like you know what you DON’T want to do at the present. As it stands, there’s a certain amount of acceptance you need to have about the fact that we can look at the same blue painting, but we will each see that blue differently. People have their ways of seeing the world. And for the more heinous ways that can manifest, you have the opportunity to be the auntie who teaches her nieces/nephews that there is love and understanding in our world.

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Anonymous #1 2w

That’s fair. I feel like I almost have to grieve my family right now. Some of my siblings don’t even listen to the news because they don’t care and it doesn’t effect them (privilege & being apathetic towards others), then my parents and other siblings only listen to far right sources that are so extremely biased and the call that “research” and never hear anything about real topics and concerns…

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Anonymous #1 2w

And all of them voting for people that are actively harming people around me (and sometimes me and other family members directly) and they just… don’t care? And think I’m crazy for being upset about it when they are fear mongering about necessary medicines?

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Anonymous #1 2w

I thought if I brought them the real information and genuine facts that we could ultimately come to an understanding and spent so much time gathering all of the resources and information, only to have them throw out vague claims of individual people’s personal opinions of what caused what with no real information or evidence and then say that both opinions are valid and should be respected and I should hear them out??? No not at all

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Anonymous #1 2w

Sorry for ranting, I’m just trying to process all of this to begin figuring out how to deal with them without feeling horrible guilt for being around them when they choose to perpetuate harm towards so many others

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Anonymous OP 2w

I brought tangible info to the same dude I mentioned. And he straight up said he doesn’t need to read any of it for me to be wrong. You are correct to feel frustration of trying to teach the unwilling. Even if you know them, you shouldn’t feel guilt for the choices they make on their own. They chose how to act for themselves. Buck that trend and be a force for good.

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Anonymous #1 2w

I feel guilty for not being able to get through to them and still loving them (I think?) and missing them. It feels wrong to associate with them and call them my family when they just genuinely don’t care about anything other than themselves and a few loved ones

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