Anonymous #2 4w

^ong what are we doing here💀 besides rent and food and gas and whatnot I buy parts for my skateboards and bike

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Anonymous #2 4w

makeup, perfumes, nails, clothes, bags, shoes, jewlery (sometimes), waxes, lotion, skin care, hair products and devices, etc

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Anonymous OP 4w

Many of those are just counterparts to what guys do, but in many cases costing more money. Guys also need to buy hair care and hygiene products. I buy soap, shaving cream, shampoo, and conditioner. Much of makeup and fashion can be considered a “hobby.” Guys also buy clothing, some guys spend a lot of money on it. Guys buy shoes too. I myself even buy jewelry because I enjoy pewter necklaces.

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Anonymous #2 4w

ok but is your conditioner $80? my moisturizer is about $120, face wash $30 smth, retinal $45, sunscreen $30 smth, shampoos cheap only like $7, perfume $80+ but lasts a while, nails are $45 every 3 weeks, soap’s cheap prob under $10, i have a serum i rarely use thats about $210 but that was my moms. a couple face masks and other misc products but those arent routine buys so idk the price

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Anonymous OP 4w

arent routine buys and are usually gifts so idk the price. thats all just hygiene. you dont wanna know how much makeup is

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Anonymous OP 4w

I said “in many cases costing more money.” I know that women’s products often cost more. I use sunscreen. My brother spends hundreds of dollars on cologne and uses lotions. The thing is that a lot of fashion, makeup, and skincare stuff falls under “hobby” to some degree or another. For the guys who don’t spend tons of money on those things, they use it on different hobbies. Like I don’t spend tons of money on that stuff, instead I buy orchids because that’s what I enjoy.

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Anonymous OP 4w

oh and hair care products... my hair dryer is $300… but my hairs pretty healthy and i dont dye it anymore so the products arent bad. when i bleached it though i was dropping $200 per appointment and similar to that on products every couple months to undo the damage that did. my haircuts are $80 every 2-3 months tho

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Anonymous #2 4w

i dont think its a hobby if i dont enjoy buying/collecting the stuff. would you say eating healthy is a hobby? or someone that goes to the gym only cause they feel they have to for weight loss? like if they dont enjoy the lifestyle at all is it really a hobby or an obligation?

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Anonymous #2 4w

Like yes I absolutely know women’s products cost a ton of money. We spend that money on our hobbies. For some dudes that also includes fashion and cologne and stuff. For other dudes it’s skateboards or action figures or plants or fish or something else.

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Anonymous #2 4w

i wouldnt compare the two. i dont get to have fun hobbies because so much of my paycheck goes into maintenance, something that doesnt really bring me joy at all. some women like shopping yeah but i honestly dont

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Anonymous OP 4w

I mean nobody has to buy nice clothes or fancy makeup? I know there’s societal pressure but splurging on stuff to look nice isn’t that different based on gender. I know dudes who care a lot about their appearance (like my brother) and he spends a ton of money on skin care and cologne and protein powders. Many dudes just don’t have to prioritize that stuff (either because they don’t care or because it isn’t as socially expected) so they can spend that money on hobbies.

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Anonymous #2 4w

You asked the question I’m just trying to explain it the best I can.

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m sorry that you feel pressured to spend money on all those things.

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Anonymous #2 4w

no i get that and i hope im not coming across mad at u or anything. this post started with a question cause i wondered how yall could have the same kind of income as me but without all these extra costs i have. i also dont really know how expensive ur hobbies and games are

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Anonymous OP 4w

I was worried that I was coming across as invalidating your experiences. I don’t really think men hobbies are fundamentally different from women’s hobbies? Like I know women who share my interests in gardening and video games and aquariums. I guess maybe we men just have more money to spend on those things because we don’t have to spend as much for hygiene and fashion stuff. And men have more ability to decide whether or not they want to splurge on appearance stuff instead of being pressured.

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Anonymous #2 4w

yeah i think thats it, men can splurge just as much on those things but maybe it feels more fun cause it feels like less of an obligation. my heart still drops every time i buy something over $20 lol

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