Most women donât even get the chance to know me or my values before deciding theyâre not interested, so my going to Pride, voting for Kamala, doing multiple charities for planned parenthood, and generally having liberal ideals means jack shit. Being ugly affects both sides of the aisle and Iâm sick of this idea that it doesnât matter what you look like as long as youâre a liberal/good person.
Because a significant amount of the time theyâll either stop responding, unadd me, or block me after they see what I look like. Thatâs a sizeable minority but much of the rest of the time, theyâll just stop responding as much or do the one word response thing. That plus I have stuff on my dating profiles about how Iâm liberal/left leaning and I donât get any matches. They judge me before they even know me.
You used biased, cherrypicked observations (you only remember non-looksmatched pairings because they stand out to you) to try and tell me my thoroughly observed data was wrong. No wonder Iâm gonna try and defend myself. In a normal conversation hopefully you wouldnât act like that immediately out of the gate
You mean your anecdotal evidence. You just claiming things donât make those things true. In a normal conversation maybe you would engage honestly and understand what people are saying when they say it. And then maybe after they said it, you could take the time; the 3 seconds it would take, to not cry about being âprejudgedâ
My original comment doesnât have any untrue statements at all. I pointed out my experience and said âlooks clearly do matter and dating is not purely meritocraticâ and for some reason that made you VERY defensive so Iâm thinking you may feel unconsciously that I called you shallow, in spite of you not even commenting before me.
I didnât make an untrue or generalised statement. Thatâs not a hypothetical we have to talk about because thatâs not what happened. The fact is that you are being defensive because you donât practice what you preach. Given what you said about âchopped guys with absolute baddiesâ I think my hypothesis is correct. You never said âI have dated some chopped guys because they were good peopleâ
Your only evidence of that is self-report data but we could make two tinder accounts right now and have one hot guy who lists himself as conservative and one average guy who lists himself as liberal and the hot guy would get more matches every single time. This experiment has been done before. Women saying theyâd choose the average guy is social desirability bias.
You mean anecdotal evidence, is what Iâm referring to. The thing you implied wasnât true when I told you what I told you. How about this, prove most women, that includes all of them, everywhere, would prefer a trump supporting guy, over a less attractive liberal guy. Show the proof.
Every experiment ever done on the subject has proven that physical attractiveness is the most important factor in dating, far more than politics, but if you wanna pay me to create two fake tinder profiles and test it both here and when I go back to school, go for it. Iâm not doing that for free considering Iâm already working on a different experiment for my honors thesis.