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I don’t wanna date someone with a penis even if I think their gender identity as a trans woman is completely valid
65 upvotes, 20 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in US Politics. "I don’t wanna date someone with a penis even if I think their gender identity as a trans woman is completely valid"
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If you refuse to date someone SOLELY because they’re trans then you’re transphobic.
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Anonymous 3w

Ok but they could have had bottom surgery; if you still refuse to date them because they’re trans then you are 100% a transphobe

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Anonymous 3w

I want to date someone with a penis 🧐

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Anonymous 3w

I see I have nothing to contribute here and I’m happily surprised with that

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Anonymous 3w

It’s not transphobia. At the end of the day, if a straight man doesn’t date a trans person, it’s because he’s straight and not a queer person. If they don’t date guys or lesbians, it’s because they’re straight, not because they’re homophobic. OOP is 100% a conservative ragebaiting, but it’s insane to think this way in the big 26.

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Anonymous 3w

i’m omnisexual. i would date a trans woman with OR without bottom surgery but i don’t really have a preference for trans men. some get me going bc i grew up watching Jeydon (now Luke) Wale, but lack of bottom surgery would be a turn off. it’s not always transphobia, sometimes it’s just preferences!! 🤷🏼‍♀️🏳️‍🌈

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Anonymous 3w

I am straight. If you are trans with the whole shebang. I’m still not gonna date you. It’s purely psychological. The moment I register that you had a penis before all attractions cease. That’s the way the brain is wired. It doesn’t mean I am a transphobe. I

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

That’s so real

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

If they’ve had bottom surgery I’d have 0 issue dating them

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

That’s you personally. I’m saying that if someone still refuses to date them then they’re transphobic

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

So then you just have genital preference and aren’t transphobic. Genital preference is completely valid and the vast majority of trans people understand and respect that

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

“Solely because they’re trans” generally includes not dating someone who had bottom surgery. If it’s just about the genitalia then that’s valid

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Me personally I’m simultaneously bisexual and only have slight genital preference so both trans guys and trans girls make my brain melt regardless of bottom surgery

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Then I don’t think that’s the same thing as refusing to date someone bc they’re trans

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 3w

I think this is having a slight misunderstanding about what the word straight means. Gender preference and genital preference are different things. Straight men can date trans women, many do. Putting it in terms of “straight” implies that trans women don’t count as women, which is a transphobic idea.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

If it’s about genitalia, that’s fine. But trans women count as women just as much as cis women do, and (ignoring factors of if someone cares about having biological children), a trans woman with bottom surgery should be viewed the same way as a cis woman

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Ok what if u want biological children?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3w

Then it’s totally understandable that they would want to date someone they can have biological children with

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I see what you’re saying, and I guess it comes down to how the couple sees the relationship. What I’m speaking from is conversations with trans friends and members of my community. I haven’t heard any of them describe it as straight (my city has a very large LGBTQ+ community and a hell of a lot of pride in their identity) so I’m glad to learn that. Labels (or lack thereof) can still be kinda tricky for me

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 3w

No worries. I’m not trans myself but I’ve dated trans people and have many trans friends so I’ve talked about this sort of stuff a lot. Terminology can get kind of complex but I think so long as ppl are respectful and clearly in good faith it’s fine.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

I agree! I made the post to highlight a situation where not dating a trans person isn’t transphobic.

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