Anonymous #1 5w

Yeah this is my thought too. If someone was depressed you wouldn’t leave them to remain depressed. Help them get through it, say to them “hey you’re depressed let’s work through this” and maybe get them professional help too. To me not telling them this is like leaving them to drown while watching

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Anonymous #1 4w

I agree! Bringing up the possibility of transness to a friend out of care is not what I think of as egg culture. I’m referring to “I barely know you but because you have this one characteristic I think you’re binary trans” and completely disregarding nonbinary identities. This caused a LOT of harm in my whole gender exploration.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Fair! I’m saying this is harmful to TRANS people though. I am a trans person, I knew I was trans, but I was told that someone knew my own identity better than I did and that I wasn’t “trans enough”. It didn’t make me mildly uncomfortable, it stopped me from exploring my gender for multiple years and still makes me doubt myself.

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Anonymous OP 4w

“telling people that they might be trans and giving them resources to stop their body from being fucked by hormones that they might spend the rest of their life suffering to undo is bad actually because someone told me they thought i was binary trans and i didn’t take it well” yeah this is fucking bonkers and trans people should be helping each other not leaving each other to suffer with some bs reaganite bootstraps approach to being trans.

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Anonymous #3 4w

FUCKING THIS 1000%. There are already a billion social forces in play working to keep people from ever transitioning or discovering themselves. if one random trans person is a little overzealous in the opposite direction it’s a drop in the bucket compared to the other side and eve having this discussion is asinine

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Anonymous #4 4w

“egg culture” refers to trans people telling other people “hey you might be trans and might benefit from thinking about if you are, if you haven’t considered it before”. basically every trans person i’ve ever known is miserable with regret over not figuring it out years earlier to start hormones or live their childhood properly. people so say “egg culture is bad” are saying that you shouldn’t tell people that they might be trans and they should have to figure it out on their own like they did.

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Anonymous #1 4w

“egg culture” is a dumb name for it bc it implies a culture around it when in reality it’s clocking similar traits in others and telling them it might be worth thinking about. some ppl think they should be left to suffer and regret wasted years in isolation instead, bc they have a reaganite bootstraps approach to the whole thing and falsely think that it’ll make people get scared and repress harder as if trans people could ever create pressure to be trans on par with society’s pressure to be cis

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Anonymous #1 4w

That’s not what I said. You can reread it, but in case I was unclear, I said that telling people they might be trans is NOT A BAD THING. INSISTING that they are (especially when they already know they are trans, just not binary trans) something other than what they say they are is what is bad. I was not simply told they thought i was binary trans, I was argued against, teased, and mocked for being nonbinary.

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