Trans Talk on Sidechat | This might get me downvoted to hell but I gotta get it off my chest. I often wonder what it’d be like to be a female and think about being trans a lot. But I also don’t think I like trans people or the idea of it so I’m just confused n likely transphobic.

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Trans Talk 2w

This might get me downvoted to hell but I gotta get it off my chest. I often wonder what it’d be like to be a female and think about being trans a lot. But I also don’t think I like trans people or the idea of it so I’m just confused n likely transphobic.

Anonymous 2w

I struggled a lot with my own suppression of identity and it manifested as transphobia and homophobia despite navigating all aspects of Queerness at some point. A lot of it was because I was frustrated that I didn’t have the language or space to express who I truly am, and then it was a total 180°. If you are cis, it’s still important to explore your identity and sense of self so you don’t have doubts or discomfort, and meeting with a good therapist can do wonders for navigating your feelings!

Anonymous 2w

lmao wdym you don’t like trans people? like the entire group?? it’s not uncommon to be transphobic/homophobic before coming out as trans/gay. being queer is hard and most of us wouldn’t willingly choose it. but you learn to love and accept yourself. there’s nothing wrong with it and we’ve been around forever

Anonymous 2w

you might be using "i don't like trans people" to justify "i don't want to be a trans person", so maybe you should try to learn more about us to figure out the answer.

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Anonymous 2w

Do you not like trans people? Or do you just not like your first impressions of the concept of trans people and don’t really know any personally? Cause before I transitioned I only had old movies to go by that showed quarterbacks in dresses for “trans” representation and thought the same thing

Anonymous 2w

You need to think on why you do and deconstruct the idea, I’m sure someone else will know what to say here as I’m rlly out of it

Anonymous 2w

A lot of trans people have a ton of internalized transphobia (nobody hates trans people more than we do) so definitely try to work through that. I know someone who made it to the other side, it does get better, and shes so much happier now

Anonymous 2w

I really don’t know how I feel but I was really just wondering if anyone has felt like this or if I just hate trans people or something idk

Anonymous 2w

What is it that you dislike about trans people? The quality of being trans has itself no bearing on any other qualities of a person, and trans people, like any other group, are very diverse in all the ways diversity can exist. To an extent, I don’t like “the idea” of it either (being trans and having dysphoria has come with a lot of suffering and I would very much like not to be trans), but it just is what it is — that’s how my brain developed whether I like it or not.

Anonymous 2w

it might be that you don’t want to involve yourself with the community aspect of queerness. i get that someone can feel exhausted with the policing or frequency of content. your experience is entirely yours and just know that it’s not wrong to question or identify as queer. and you’re welcome to just casually identify. you don’t have to rep flags, post frequently, or even browse communities. you can keep the way you feel to yourself. all that matters is that you’re comfortable

Anonymous 1w

You’ve got a long journey ahead of you

Anonymous

#7 2w

And about not liking trans people, my guess (correct me if I’m wrong) is that you’re lumping everyone into the stereotypes most portrayed in the media/pop culture, which isn’t something you relate to. And I get that, I don’t fit into what most people think of when they think of trans people either. As a trans man, I’m very cis-passing, full beard, masculine, heterosexual, dress in a way most typical of conservatives, Christian, from the deep south, traditionally male hobbies and interests, etc.

Anonymous

#7 2w

“Queer” spaces aren’t places that I want to be in or feel that I belong in (which doesn’t mean that they’re bad, they’re just not me). There is no singular, monolithic way to exist as a trans person and trans people are just people out there living completely normal lives — you’ve probably encountered them out in the world and not known it. So just examine what is causing you to dislike an entire group.

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Anonymous

gipsum 2w

(Now I’m dating two other trans girls and 1.5 years on hrt)

Anonymous

OP 2w

I understand; I’m coming to realize not liking trans people was jealousy and an awkwardness that came with that. I felt awkward being by transitioning people because it made me question things, and that made me dislike them.

Anonymous

#9 2w

For me I eventually realized I’m NB and maybe even trans? Unsure. But for a long time I looked at people like me and went “why would you do that???” Because I couldn’t comprehend not being afraid of the repercussions. I’m still scared, and I’m not labeling myself as much just trying to understand what about gendered things makes me feel good and bad.