Trans Talk on Sidechat | Mainstream media is constantly telling us that being trans is about what gender “you feel like,” but I don’t feel like a girl most of the time. I mean my reflection is literally male. But the highest euphoria I get is when I do feel like a girl. (2/2)

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Trans Talk 4w

Mainstream media is constantly telling us that being trans is about what gender “you feel like,” but I don’t feel like a girl most of the time. I mean my reflection is literally male. But the highest euphoria I get is when I do feel like a girl. (2/2)

Trans Talk 4w

I’ve just decided that I’m gonna try seeing what it feels like to be a trans girl and the first few days gave me such high euphoria but now I’m having doubts. Does anyone else still feel like their assigned gender sometimes/most of the time? (1/2)

Anonymous 4w

Trans guy here, I felt the same way, didn’t transition for years because I didn’t “feel like” a guy. Most of the time I felt apathy towards being a woman, but when I finally did transition I got so much joy out of being able to express myself more masculinely, and now 6+ years later I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

Anonymous 4w

To add another thing, she/her pronouns just don’t give me a puzzle piece clicking feeling. Nothing really does. Like idk they/them felt kinda right for a while but didn’t fully feel like me. Although when people were using she/her for me, that was before I decided I really am gonna try feeling like a girl.

Anonymous

#1 4w

My advice: Don’t worry too much about labels, especially early on like this. Your best bet is to just keep following that joy. Whether it’s how you identify or how you dress or trying on a new haircut or whatever. Follow that euphoric feeling and eventually you’ll find a label that feels right. Or you won’t, but you’ll be a much happier and more fulfilled person, and at that point who needs labels anyway?

Anonymous

OP 4w

Bro what am I getting downvoted for oml

Anonymous

#1 4w

Thanks for the advice! I’m not trying to put too much stress on it rn. I have been questioning my gender since last winter though, and I identified as nonbinary for a bit at 15/16.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Here’s an upvote to balance it back out, I’m really not sure what the downvote was about lmao. I think this is perfectly normally by the way, pronouns didn’t start mattering much to me until I was deep into transitioning. Like now I get dysphoric if I get she/ma’amed but that’s mostly because I’ve been comfortably living as a man for a long time.

Anonymous

#1 4w

That makes sense! I think being trans is just really different than the simple “always felt like this” palatable explanation.