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I just want to go on hrt with no questions asked. Just walk into a planned parenthood and put down my family's insurance. But i have a feeling that wouldnt be the best move. But just sitting and making smaller changes helps but not enough
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Anonymous 1d

going to be honest, that’s what i did and it’s the best decision i’ve ever made for myself.

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Anonymous 23h

I did this and my family has just started noticing/speaking about it. It’s really tough sometimes but I don’t regret it. Make sure you have a way to pay WITHOUT insurance just in case, make sure you have good friends and can support yourself.

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Anonymous 1d

oh yeah if the issue is coming out first, you can just go on HRT. i had a friend who paid out of pocket for a few months til her dad found out and put her on their insurance, which was expensive but is an option if you're worried. also, i fully pass (minus speaking in a feminine voice a lot of the time) and only one out of my three parents have ever asked anything about it and it was just "you can tell us anything..." "are there any pronouns we should be aware of?" and then they dropped it

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Anonymous 21h

this is what i did and i do not regret it. my family is chill now but i know they would have pushed back if i had asked first, definitely glad i decided to do it and explain later

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Anonymous 14h

I did that, but I think my folks were able to see the testosterone billed to the insurance. But I got the hrt in the first place after just one consult at planned parenthood

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Did your family ask questions? How did it show up on insurance reports could they tell?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

for me the insurance thing wasn’t an issue bc my insurer had strong privacy protections for adult children + i had all the EOBs/billing stuff sent to my college address. ik for some people tho this is an issue. my family only asked like “are you sick?” when my voice dropped after six months, but after brushing them of a couple of times they let it go. tbh it makes them uncomfortable + we don’t talk about me being trans so it’s lowkey whatever. but not everyone has that kind of relationship.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

either way it generally takes a couple months for effects to be visible (voice drop or breast growth, typically). you can use that time to figure out if hrt is right for you and what to tell your family. it’s up to you when is the right time, but it’s definitely not necessary to come out first.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Thank you <3

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

obv like what #1 said, if that won't work for your situation, it's different, but there are definitely trans people and passing trans people who either aren't on hrt or are on hrt behind their parents backs

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