
my mom had to get a double mast due to breast cancer & was considering reconstruction. i was like, "oh, well why would you get surgery again just for aesthetics? isnt surgery risky?" and she was telling me it's different bc she'd been used to her breasts & it was traumatic to need them removed (true). i told her i was used to having a flat chest for my whole childhood, and growing breasts was traumatic. "that's different bc thats natural" well it didn't feel natural
anyways she hasnt ended up getting it, at least not yet. i love my mom and she is trying so i lowk feel guilty leaving this comment, but it's enough of a parallel i figured i'd share. relationships with a parent who's lowkey transphobic but not actually evil about it is very complicated emotionally