it’s really difficult to come to terms with not being able to be a parent in the way you would hope to, but you absolutely can still be a mother. it may be helpful to spend some time in infertility and/or queer parenting spaces.

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the dissociation part is what really kills me :/ I lost so much of my late teens/early adulthood because of it. I feel like I’ve regressed somehow, and I have permanent consequences related to brain damage because of it. it’s awful.

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• women are 5'10" (average height is only a few inches shorter anyway) • you can absolutely still be a mother. adoption is an option and infertility isn't a guarantee, especially when stopping HRT • we never know who we'll lose *or* who we'll gain. i learned who loved ME and not the idea of me they preferred • this is true. you can only create new memories. eventually the old will fade along with the hurt. thank goodness our brains are designed to forget • simply not true

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Honestly, I am feeling these exact same points. I feel your pain and I’m sorry things like this are acceptable to people who don’t understand. I’m here for you if you need me

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Well - the third and last points aren’t facts. And also, no matter how it goes, you will receive all the positive benefits.

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These feelings reflect the deepest fears I think a lot of us feel. It’s important to ready yourself for rejections but also important to give people a chance to be on your side. You are far from alone in this experience and there is a loving community out here ready to embrace and love you! Don’t let yourself ruminate in self hatred. Every negative experience you feel points you in the direction of positive growth if you let it. I recommend positive affirmations.

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I’m not sure if it helps to hear, but a majority of the cis women in my family are 5’10 - 5’11, and I know plenty of other women who are around that height. I can understand the pain and frustration though. I’m so sorry, OP

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