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I am 200% positive a friend of mine is an egg and bc of that I keep “accidentally” slipping up on pronouns like once a day or every other day. Like the egg shell is goddamn transparent and I see a girl in there
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Anonymous 4w

Can we just let people figure stuff out on their own (if there even is anything for them to figure out) instead of assigning “egg” status to them

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Anonymous 4w

Respectfully, you need to stop and get a handle on this. You can mention “hey have you ever thought of transitioning? It might make you happy” and move on. A friend did this to me (assuming I’m a trans man which I am not), and it genuinely stopped me from investigating my gender as a nonbinary person for years, and has given me so much imposter syndrome. You do not know your friend better than they know themselves.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Do you know something about my friend that I don’t? As a general rule yeah let people figure stuff out, but sometimes friends have their own unique dynamics in how their friendship works. It’s not a one size fits all rule set in stone

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Yeah no fuck this egg prime directive bullshit. If I didnt help crack my girlfriend's egg she would be dead by now. The closet is deadly.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Yeah literally. It’s like seeing someone depressed and just leaving them If you’re not sure if someone is trans then yeah ofc give it time, but if it’s crystal clear they’re trans, you gotta start working on cracking that egg. Obvs do it in a way you feel the person would be most receptive to, but you gotta help them out

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I personally would hate if someone acted like they knew more about me than I do, but it’s your friendship, not mine.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Yeah I get that. It’s why I don’t think there is a one size fits all solution. Some people would really benefit from having their egg cracked by someone, but others such as yourself would find it suffocating. It’s a person to person thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

people can figure stuff out on their own, but it’s also not the end of the world to suggest someone might be trans. literally the rest of the world is telling them they’re cis. it’s not a bad thing to know someone and say “hey you remind me of people like me,” bc it’s not a bad thing to be trans/queer/gay (this is also common w neurodivergence).

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

Also, even if you don’t see them doing this exploration they may be doing it on their own like I did. I needed the space to explore my own identity without anyone’s input (beyond “hey we love you and support whoever you are”) and hid all possible signs of being trans after this because it made me so uncomfortable.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

At the end of the day, you are misgendering your friend AT LEAST FOR NOW. If it means you have to practice using their current pronouns when you’re alone, do it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

Sorry I kinda went off, I’m very passionate about this because it negatively impacted my own transition. I understand you’re not doing it on purpose, and I give you credit for realizing it’s an issue.

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