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Trans Talk 4w
Guys this is so dumb but I just realized I’m a dude this afternoonwhat the fuck do I do about this shit. I have double ds and giant hips how the hell am I ever gonna pass send help
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Anonymous 4w

Take a breather, things are going to be alright. It’s A LOT to take is as you clearly are experiencing right now. Lets just slow down and get centered real quick Got it? Ok! I understand it seems like there is a lot in your way, and I won’t sugar coat some of it, there is. However you are at square one right now, which is where we all start. In time, you are going to look back on all this as nothing but a distant memory

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Anonymous 4w

I was sitting in traffic and the thought popped into my head: “hey cis people probably don’t constantly think about looking different, have a whole plan for getting on T after graduation and already have a different preferred name picked out” Fuck my stupid baka life in 22 I gotta get a real job soon this is not the time to be having Realizations

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

lol I just teared up that’s so sweet thank you random person on yikyak

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I remember when I first found out I was transfem. It’s A LOT to take in. But there are trans people who pass even after starting transitioning in their fifties! Medical science is kinda cool like that I understand there’s a rush to get everything done, and yeah it is going to seem a bit daunting. Without sugar coating it, transitioning is a years long process that is going to be one of the most frustrating things you’ll ever go through, but also one of if not the most rewarding processes

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Like you’re 22, either already living away from parents or are nearing that point, and are starting your adult life. If anything you actually have a decent starting place in not trying to navigate a potentially transphobic house and being years away from leaving. So let’s look at the positives of where you’re at too! And remember, transitioning happens one day at a time. You don’t need a new name this minute, you don’t have to fix your wardrobe overnight. Just be kind and gentle to yourself:)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Wdym those are totally normal cis thoughts ;)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Okay 4ish days and one haircut later and I have calmed the hell down. Thank you so much for your advice. I’m lucky enough to already be in an environment with some trans friends and classmates so the last few days have been kinda awesome, lol. Definitely scared out of my mind still especially with the current political climate but no longer as self-flagellating, lol. Also bc I’ve been dressing super butch to alleviate dysphoria I think I’m sending out the wrong signal to the campus lesbians :p

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Ofc! And yeah, dw, we all are scared given the current political environment. But the best middle finger you can give the current system is by having the self knowledge of who you are and being exactly that. And it helps to have a good environment in your corner like it seems you have!!! Also feel you on the last part albeit the reverse. I’m transfem and was sending out all the wrong signals to the gay guys at the beginning of my transition lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Also if you need anything at all you’re more than free to DM me!

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