Trans Talk on Sidechat | I rlly wish ppl were smarter about pronouns. Ppl would literally call you bro or buddy when they don’t even know you. Are using neutral terms really that hard? I feel like everything should be neutral until someone tells you their pronouns.

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Trans Talk 1d

I rlly wish ppl were smarter about pronouns. Ppl would literally call you bro or buddy when they don’t even know you. Are using neutral terms really that hard? I feel like everything should be neutral until someone tells you their pronouns.

Anonymous 1d

that’s why I call everyone “dawg”

Anonymous 21h

Nah. Would hate for people to assume neutral terms for me. Plus 99% of people aren’t neutral so it makes way more sense to just carry on referring to people as usual and correct yourself if someone tells you otherwise.

Anonymous 16h

I always thought buddy was neutral? I’ve heard cis women get called buddy my entire life, but maybe it’s just where I’m from

Anonymous 20h

i call all my female friends and my own mother "bro" "dude" "man" "brother". it's just how some people's vocabulary is. obviously if someone is uncomfortable with being called any/all of those things, i'll stop as quickly as i can with them, but it isn't malicious and those words aren't inherently gendering in a lot of people's heads.

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Anonymous

#1 1d

IMO that leans more masculine but ok?

Anonymous

#3 20h

like i get it and dysphoria sucks and there are times people will call me "girl" and it'll make me double take for a second, but you have to remember that these words are just casual slang people use and they aren't necessarily being hostile

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Anonymous

OP 16h

I picked it up from an all-girl friend group so I’ve always seen it as feminine lmao

Anonymous

#3 16h

I can’t with the stupidity anymore. I’m not even going to explain why that’s just dumb asf.

Anonymous

#1 16h

I said “everyone” but I really only do it in a casual context, i.e. with people I know at least a little.. that said, still wish we had better casual terms for each other outside of “twin” (only used in specific contexts). best one I’ve heard is from my supportive Deep South aunt who calls me “kin.” big fan of being called “kin” as an nb

Anonymous

OP 10h

literally just explain, what? why take the time to be hateful and actively choose to talk down to me without explaining what's upsetting you? i came here without any hostility or aggression and you're pissed without even trying to actually engage with what i'm saying.