Trans Talk on Sidechat | obviously people can do whatever they want, but people who describe their sexuality as “women and trans people” “anyone but cis men” “women and afabs” etc etc etc turn me off so much that it’s made me take some distance from queer spaces

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Trans Talk 3w

obviously people can do whatever they want, but people who describe their sexuality as “women and trans people” “anyone but cis men” “women and afabs” etc etc etc turn me off so much that it’s made me take some distance from queer spaces

Anonymous 3w

deadass bro just tell me to my face you don’t see me as a man 😭 it would hurt less

Anonymous 3w

“trans men are ~safer~” meanwhile all of the sexual violence i’ve experienced has been from cis women. setting up cis men as uniquely dangerous vs literally everyone else means refusing to critically interrogate what actually constitutes risk with regard to bigotry and/or IPV, which ironically makes people *more likely* to be predated on bc they think identity makes someone a predator and not behavior.

Anonymous 3w

No literally. I'm becoming so sick of the implicit misgendering in agab language. Those terms should only be necessary in a medical setting, but the community took them and ran with it

Anonymous

#1 3w

would waste less of everybody’s time too -_-

Anonymous

#3 3w

yeah i feel like a lot of people have a strong over reliance on agab language. i’d argue that there are a lot of points where it’s not medically necessary either !

Anonymous

#2 3w

absolutely 💯 we need to be teaching people how to recognize actual red flags instead of relying on identity to determine who is safe vs unsafe to be around

Anonymous

OP 3w

100% this… ur doctors should not use agab language, ur agab should be in the chart somewhere and just be a data point just like weight or height and never referred to

Anonymous

#3 3w

the problem is that way too many cissexual ppl (including many transgender ones) refuse to understand that agab refers to a thing that *someone else did* (past tense) at a point in time, not a thing that *you presently are*. it would make no sense to say “i am assigned male at birth”. It’s a nonsense sentence, rather i *was* (past tense) assignED male at birth. but the ppl using it don’t care bc the point 99% of the time is just to frame trans women as “having rapist biology” or whatever.

Anonymous

OP 3w

this, i’ve known a number of trans women who’s most abusive partner was a trans man, not just because she thought he couldn’t be abusive but also HE thought he couldn’t be abusive.