for people who’re accepting but don’t know much about being trans, they’ll match your vibe: if you’re nervous, they’ll be nervous; if you take the time to write a letter, they’ll take the time to read it; if you’re casual about it, they’ll be casual about it; if you treat it like a celebration, then they’ll celebrate. think about how you want them to react, then work backwards to figure out how you want to come out :)

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it definitely took my parents a few years to catch on- they didn't believe me at first, but when i went to online school for a year (during covid, but not BECAUSE of covid), and asked my teachers to change my name in the system, they did- and since my teachers were calling me by my preferred name, my parents started to as well??? my way of coming out was just like.. occasionally reminding them quietly, and it slowly caught on. there wasnt really a specific, like.. date everything changed over.

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