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Trans Talk 5d
ngl “amab” and “afab” are labels that kinda piss me off. like why are we centering the sex we had assigned at birth as if it still defines us? just say transfem/transmasc
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Anonymous 5d

also i would argue that the longer you are on hrt the less your assigned sex matters. You can’t sit and tell me that, for example, an older trans woman who has been on hrt for like twenty years and had every surgery she wants is closer to being male than female

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Anonymous 5d

it's even worse when you're talking about non binary people because anyone who isn't nb asks us all the time whether we're amab or afab and if ur unfortunately amab you get hate because no one thinks amab non binary people are real 😭

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Anonymous 4d

btw the person who quoted this defending the usage of amab and afab ended up being a massive transmisogynist. Holy fuck I want through the comments and people were furious with him lol

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Anonymous 4d

Ill describe myself however the fuck I want, thank you very much.

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Anonymous replying to -> mentallyillsharkie 5d

Never go to the “woman and nonbinary space” event as a transfem. Worst mistake of my life

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

people always will have a problem when you join a "woman and nb space" if ur either a transfem or an "amab" non binary person. they usually end up being the most transphobic spaces

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

I’m not going to a “woman and nonbinary space” because I know they just see me as a woman and NOT as nonbinary! The one time I went to something like that it was all “ok ladies” “hey girlies” “but in a gEnDer NeUtRaL wAy!!”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

Yeah I’ve been trying to break the habit of using “girl” as a gender neutral term, bc I get not everyone is comfortable with it. But recently it’s become a vocal stim and I have to keep telling others im sorry 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

Trans man here and literally the amount of times I have to tell my coworkers that I see “girl” as gender neutral is so funny. Like a coworker said it to me and then started apologizing and I asked if she said it to other men, she said yes, and I said it would be exclusionary (to me) to not use it with me. I also get this is a unique experience tho and that’s just my comfort of the word

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4d

Oh yeah usually I apologize and then ask if the person wants me to use it in the future. Because in the end going “gurl umm” is a big part of queer culture. It’s not being used in really a gendered way under that context

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

In my weird way, I think it’s a really cool semantically significant sign of feminism. Like “dude, bro, guy” have been gender neutral for so long and being a masc girl is more acceptable/mainstream. But being feminine as a boy is still seen as being fruity or as a problem and some masc men are still very threatened by feminization of themselves. So seeing an uptick in more “feminine” terms and expressions being used makes my heart happy

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4d

TRUTH! It is a sign of progress, and that’s really cool

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4d

👍

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