Anonymous #1 2d

i do experience dysphoria T-T it's so difficult cause like i've kinda given up on looking androgynous because i do enjoy more fem aesthetics and have a larger chest :( but i hate looking at my chest like i genuinely know id be so much more comfortable in my gender expression if i didn't have it

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Anonymous OP 2d

it’s so hard to “pass” as androgynous dawg :/ I get dysphoria for not being andro, which is an impossible standard for where I’m at rn. so then I cope by wearing dysphoria hoodies/sweats, which then makes me question if I’m trying at all in my transition/if I’m “really” trans :/ idk if you have a similar thing, I also spread out my aesthetics between masc/fem but the masc ones make me wonder how trans I really am ;-;

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Anonymous #1 2d

gosh i can only imagine that specific feeling :( and it's dumb cause it's like all based on traditional gender presentation and i know logically that my identity is valid no matter how i look!!! but i feel like i wont be taken seriously as a trans person if i dont look like im trying hard enough

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Anonymous OP 2d

no I feel the exact same way.. if I don’t constantly put in effort to conform then I wonder if I’m even trans. the main problem might be that I’m trying to conform to some nebulous idea of androgyny that isn’t even mine. idek if being considered “androgynous” is important to me beyond my desired presentation falling in that general range (if that makes sense?)

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Anonymous #1 2d

that's valid!! i also think we're the most strict on ourselves unfortunately. like if i saw someone who looks like me who was nonbinary i wouldn't even think of discrediting their identity because of their appearance. gender identity doesn't always correlate to one way or another of presentation!! but to be fair a lot of cis and uneducated queer people don't think like me :( but like why would i want to appeal to those people anyway!!!!! aaaaaaaaaaa

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