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Trans Talk 9w
so tired of seeing people bring up agab in contexts when it truly is not necessary
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Anonymous 9w

especially when they refer to specific people with it. I’m non-binary and see it CONSTANTLY. they can use it for themselves if they want, but no, im not an “afab enby,” never call me that. I’m a fucking transmasc.

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Anonymous 9w

as an amab (coughs up a little bit of blood) trans girl, i agree

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Anonymous 9w

i think the only time agab ever matters is at the hospital on specific blood tests and procedures that are relevant… otherwise it is def irrelevant

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Anonymous 9w

I feel the same way about ftm, mtf, mtnb, and ftnb. It doesn’t matter what I WAS, what I am now is a guy full stop

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Anonymous 9w

genuinely love being seen as not quite male or female just because it means people don't know that i was [agab]. am i a man? sure, yeah. am i something beyond that? yeah for sure. am i "a male" or "a female"? no.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

they’ll also unnecessarily use AGAB to discuss dichotomies between groups (like trans fem and trans masc NBs). and the people who use AGAB language for NBs always have bioessentialist takes, or they generalize “male/female socialization” to try and separate us as a community. it’s a dogwhistle when used like that so it will always pmo when I see it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

YUP and they lump you in with women when the whole point of u being nonbinary is to not???

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

I got put in a “gender neutral” group in high school which was all of the girls, plus me, and NOT including the amab nonbinary person

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

EXACTLY 😭😭 and maybe the term used to be used well in the trans community, but it’s just become “woke” misgendering. ugh.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

like, if you mean someone with a penis, or someone with breasts, or someone with a uterus, just say that. and if you're trying to say someone is boy nonbinary then just don't.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 9w

That, and if you’re going to third base with someone, and you don’t have bottom surgery, it’s pretty important to bring it up then too. But aside from sex and specific medical procedures, we shouldn’t be using AGAB, especially not to lump nonbinary ppl in with binary trans ppl or cis ppl of their AGAB for no fucking reason. It’s woke-brand bioessentialism and we’re better than that bullshit

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9w

even then, you could just be like, hey i have a ______

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9w

Yeah, that works too… wasn’t sure if you were meaning the specific terms “amab/afab” or the general concept of Telling People That

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 8w

Not even always, because taking hormones changes your dominant hormones it pretty much changes your sex foo. You are no longer considered the sex you were assigned at birth if you are on hormones and have surgeries. Sometimes you do not have to tell doctors what hormones you are on because we all have hormones

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 8w

I didn’t mean 100% no longer considered, I meant you medically don’t have to consider yourself relevant to your agab if your dominant hormones are fully transitioned

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