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Trans Talk 2d
Say it with me! Trans men are not all SA victims, not all AFAB SA victims want to be trans men. And for us trans men who are unfortunately victims too, we did not transition because of our experience(s). Two things can be true and co-exist.
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Anonymous 2d

jokes on them my sa happened after transition (not really a joke, the rate at which trans men experience sa is really sad)

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Anonymous 2d

are people actually saying SA causes transitions??

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Anonymous 1d

lwk my experience with sa made me consider detransitioning, if anything

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Anonymous 19h

literally one of the first things my mom asked me was if i transitioned cause of this little grooming/stalking incident that happened when i was in middle school 💀 like girl that lasted less than a week and NO THATS NOT WHY IM TRANS

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

In my experience as well as other transmasc folks ik, yeah. I had and still have people who find out I’m trans and the first question is “what happened to you as a kid”, “did someone touch you growing up” stupid questions like that. I’m happy you don’t have that experience tho, it’s exhausting and it deadass hindered my transition journey for the longest

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE holy fuck im so tired of having ppl ask me that

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2d

BRO! Sick and tired! I’m so sorry u have that experience 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Thanks man 🥲 sorry to us both

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2d

Dude I’m so terribly sorry…

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2d

We got this bro, we deserve to heal and we’ll get there! 🫂

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

Ikr? Mine’s was a big reason it so long to even consider transitioning

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

that is an insane assumption for people to make what the hell 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Ik it’s fucking wild how people ask those insane questions with their whole chest like it’s a fact 🫩. I’m going to take a shot in the dark and say it’s based on the assumption that trans men couldn’t defend themselves pre-transition so they had to transition in order to do so, which is braindead asf.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

literally first question my mom asked when i came out was “did something happen to you?”

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

that’s fucked

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 16h

Bro that’s crazy 😭 it’s awful how common this mindset is

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

and like not at all tryna undermine what happened to me cause that def affected me but like,,, in comparison to the trauma ive got from TERF and transphobic family it genuinely didnt affect me 💀

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 8h

Nah my in-laws are cherry-pickers when it comes to LGBTQ+ so I get it 😭

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