
trans guy but i have sisters and also a fair amt of experience with body hair. epilators made me cry so even if you get used to one i wouldn't recommend it generally. having a warm shower before, using a really conditioning shave gel (the pink one with the swirly cap was my favorite), scrubbing gently with a wash cloth/sugar scrub before, using a razor with built in lotion strips (costco sells a big pack; you can also try a safety razor), and going slowly help
also it's worth considering waxing. it's painful, but it's something i think you can get used to way easier than an epilator, and it's fairly easy to do at home so long as you're careful about the temperature so you don't burn yourself. makes the legs a lot less annoying than fussing with in the shower. shower chairs are lowkey peak for shaving tho like sitting down lets you or at least me put up with the ordeal way longer