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Trans Talk 1d
So, I’m a cis gay guy and I recently started dating a trans guy, I was wondering if there was any thing I could do to make him feel more masculine and stuff, and I will delete this if asked
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Anonymous 1d

honestly I think it’s best to communicate with your partner about what makes them feel good and focus on that. I think a lot of cis people feel like there’s some kind of rulebook they have to follow to be a good ally but in my experience it’s more about respect, trust, and the constant choice to show love for one another.

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Anonymous 17h

As a trans guy dating a (currently) cis guy, it’s all about being open to anything. Like be as open minded as you can and understand that everyone is different. If he wants to feel more masculine then do that, but also some trans guys feel forced into hypermasculinity so make sure it’s healthy and he feels more confident rather than boxed in!

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Anonymous 7h

i would feel real warm n fuzzy inside if my bf complimented how hairy i am and how hard i get (also giving us a bj where you're moving your head up and down is an incredible visual)

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Anonymous 1d

I know the basics, I do see him as a man and I know to let him give me the terminology he prefers to use, I just didn’t know if there was anything extra I could do

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Anonymous replying to -> p1llow_pr1nc3ss 1d

I don’t know you nor your partner, but I do think that therapy (or some form of shadow work, whatever works for you) can be a great tool for navigating the complexities of both your own psyche and the intersections of your relationship. I think we live in a society where the onus is placed on the individual, and there is so much pressure to figure things out for ourselves, but it’s ok to ask for help. find a network that supports you.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2h

Honestly it’s good ur doing research. My best advice is to just be as open to communication as humanly possible and then treat him like any other dude. Dysphoria can be a minefield but getting treated with kid gloves or feeling like you’re being ‘pandered to’ can also fuck people up

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