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Is it bad that as a trans fem I want nothing to do with cis men but I really want trans men?? This is so confusing
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Anonymous 18h

Not bad at all. That’s t4t 🫶

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Anonymous 16h

i appreciate you caring about us in addition to finding us attractive. that's the distinction to me. like if you can appreciate men as a group asthetically but you want to date a trans guy since you're also trans, that's okay with me.

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Anonymous 15h

Tbf cis men kinda deserve the reputation they’ve been given, I wouldn’t want to date a cis man either (or a trans man but that’s bc im a lesbian lol)

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Anonymous 17h

That’s a relatively common experience for trans people, and it’s not bad at all! It’s usually just a desire (conscious or subconscious) to be with a partner who also understands/shares a defining part of your identity and experience.

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Anonymous 27m

That’s not bad! As a trans men I do get grossed out by cis people who only want trans men, but if you’re trans yourself it’s way different. You’d have more common ground with a trans man, we’re much less likely to be bigoted against trans women (not impossible I know), and also we got that tboy swaaaaag lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

But like if I’m attracted to trans men shouldn’t I be attracted to cis men?? Isn’t that how that works? 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

No, t4t is specifically trans for trans. I’m the same way and I’m a trans man. I’d date anyone but a cis man.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

That makes me feel so much better. Thank you. I thought something was wrong with me. 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

Of course!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 27m

Toby swag YES SIR!!! And thank you ☺️

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