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Pls don’t hate on me, I’m NOT trans I am a cis guy BUT my girlfriend is trans (mtf) and I don’t live in a place where people accept that. It’s a new relationship and I want advice on how to make her feel less gender dysphoric. Pls only serious answers 😣
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Anonymous 21h

make her feel like she can comfortable being herself when around you, and that you would protect her if harm comes her way

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Anonymous 16h

Treat her like your girlfriend! Even the cheesy stuff like always holding her bags or getting the door for her, it usually helps them to feel more feminine.

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Anonymous 20h

Make her feel safe. Be her sanctuary. The world is a scary place so she’s going to need a man like you by her side

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Anonymous 5h

Treat her like you would any other girl. Nothing makes me feel better than when I’m treated just like any other girl

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Anonymous 10h

if she has a favorite outfit, you can make a point to compliment her when she's wearing it. you could also try (although i'd bring it up beforehand rather than doing it heat of the moment) saying that you want to get her pregnant during sex. it's wildly affirming for many of us to use those phrases which are so gender specific in general society with us for our correct gender

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Anonymous 8h

I like holding the doors for my girl friends and “lady’s first” but I think that depends on the area you’re in if that’s normal? I don’t leave the south but I’ve met people from other places who thinks that just a southern thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

Thank you :) it is scary but she’s very strong and very amazing and beautiful so we’ll be ok once we move somewhere less conservative

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Tell her that she’s going to blossom into something amazing, and you’ll be by her side every step of the way As another MTF living in a conservative hell, I wish the best for the both of you

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 9h

And when you compliment her, say specifically that she looks pretty or beautiful!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9h

Thank you

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 8h

We live in the deep Deep South. She isn’t very out yet and my family is terrible so we have to keep it more of a secret and I feel rlly bad bc it upsets her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9m

Yeah, also from the Deep South, I only really do that when we’re at college because I know that their families aren’t supportive

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