Trans Talk on Sidechat | (20m cis) My gf 20mtf gets really sad/dysphoric about not being able to have bio kids someday. Having a family is something we both want and we’ll probably try to adopt when we are older. Any advice on how I can help her to feel less sad/dysphoric?

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(20m cis) My gf 20mtf gets really sad/dysphoric about not being able to have bio kids someday. Having a family is something we both want and we’ll probably try to adopt when we are older. Any advice on how I can help her to feel less sad/dysphoric?

Anonymous 5w

r/queerception, it’s a great place for support for queer family making

Anonymous 5w

I think it could potentially be helpful to remind her that her proficiency as a mom doesn’t hinge on her reproductive capabilities / that lots of cis women are unable to get pregnant too but their bond with their eventual children is no less real or meaningful because of it 🙏

Anonymous 5w

Can’t see freeze her swimmers down and maybe use surrogacy? Either way being a mom is a feeling. It doesn’t matter that it’s biological or not. I know some people really wants that but getting a child and fill it with love should always matter in the end. Let her have her feeling but try to tell her that being a mom should be the feeling that matters

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Anonymous

#3 5w

typically freezing has to be done prior to starting HRT, and it is often cost-prohibitive. *some* people can regain fertility by going off of HRT (typical protocol is 6+ months), but even then that is not a guarantee for sperm production to resume (some become permanently infertile as a result of HRT, some were infertile prior to HRT and didn’t know). some people still produce sperm while on HRT. unfortunately trans fertility is extremely un/understudied, so there’s no data on how common any of

Anonymous

#3 5w

these outcomes are. TLDR: freezing sperm is often inaccessible for a variety of reasons and isn’t an easy answer for transfemmes considering family building and processing reproductive dysphoria/grief.